Does a Divorce Mean it’s Over?
Anita from Winston Salem asks:
I have been divorced since 2003 and I am still mourning my divorce. My ex will not even speak to me. He acts like it was all my fault. He cheated on me and kept all the money to himself, yet we did have a good relationship (or so I thought). I saw him at his mom’s funeral. He kissed me on the forehead and looked at me like he still loved me. I believe he does, but he just won’t talk to me. I have tried dating others, but I have had no luck. I’m just not interested. It’s like I am holding a torch, hoping he will call or want me back. I am 61 and he is 58. I have moved back to NC and he is still in GA.
Psychic Red ext. 9226 Responds:
You have quite a history with your ex husband. That is something that is hard to forget; harder still to just walk away from. But, you need to try. The two of you built and shared a life, but it is no longer that time or place. Your ex has moved on. I’m not saying he doesn’t still care for you, because he does. He always will. Sadly, it’s not the same kind or depth of love that you still hold for him. I’m sorry to say this, but I don’t see him coming back to you.
I know that this isn’t the news you were hoping to hear. I can only hope that hearing it will help to free you so that you can move forward and find love again. Letting go is hard, but it can also be liberating. It’s time you put down the torch and get back to living your life fully again.
There is a magnetic quality about you that certainly catches the attention of available, and some not-so-available men. Look at dating from the perspective of companionship and fun, instead of a mission to find love. It’s going to take a special man to hold your attention, and there has to be a higher level of chemistry and true connection for you to consider a deeper involvement, but it is going to happen. I see you getting married again, in what looks like 2016. You don’t have to believe me now, but I will warn you to never say, “never!”
Your marriage may be over, but your life isn’t. Let go of the past and look toward the future with hope, but not expectation, and you just might find that you enjoy being free.
I hope this helps you.
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