Will We Rebound?
Christina from Downey asks:
I’m thinking of leaving my current relationship of almost 12 years, if I do, do you see us back together?
It looks as if you and your partner have some very strong ties that will continue to bind you together. And, there is actually a lot of love there, too! Whether you like it or not, I believe you know that you really are with your soulmate.
If you choose to leave, to take a break, yes – the two of you will reunite. However, before you decide to take this flight of freedom you are pondering, I want you to be aware that this action will set in motion a cycle of events that will repeat. While a break will help to correct some of the issues you have been having on the surface, and your partner would see it as a “wake up call,” things won’t be as simple as some time apart, then back together, happily moving forward. Nope. Instead, you would be creating what appears to be a fairly significant off-and-on pattern. This pattern will ultimately make things more challenging; creating deeper levels of pain and resentment, and also heighten some control issues within each of you.
If you choose to implement a break-up, I suggest you seriously consider enforcing that decision into something more permanent. This way, each of you can hurt, heal, and eventually move on and find love and happiness with different partners.
Rather than play the on-and-off power game, your best course of action really does look like working through your issues with your partner. Brace yourself, because things will not necessarily go easy – there will be some fighting and hurt feelings. But, this type of discord ultimately can lead to new boundaries, the redefining of roles and expectations, and an over-all stronger foundation and more loving relationship.