Every human being has intuitive gifts. Unfortunately, 98% of the population chooses not to use them. Let me be clear, the best intuition is going to be absolutely useless if it is constantly overwritten by your thoughts, if you don’t hone it, or if you flat out ignore it! Who you are and how you appear to others is a direct result of not just your spoken word, but also your actions. Claiming to be intuitive while ignoring your gut feelings and dissecting everything to death, is the equivalent to a morbidly obese person telling you they are athletic or fit.
We all have it! “It” being the nagging feeling that we are in danger or that something is wrong. We can sense when we are being lied to, cheated on, or disliked, just as we can tell when someone clearly likes us, loves us, admires us or is honest with us. Listening to this inner voice, however, is a different ball game! I therefore challenge you to think about the last time someone pulled the wool over your eyes — especially when someone cheated on you. And now tell me that you didn’t sense it/see it coming/knew it. If you start asking around, you’ll find that almost everyone you’ll talk to will tell you something like “I knew she/he was being dishonest,” or “I knew that something was up, I just couldn’t prove it.”
I learned to listen to these hunches, because I found that my gut is never wrong. It is my mind and emotions that are wrong, a lot! By trying to give someone the benefit of the doubt, by talking myself into the story of not having any proof, by arguing that there is no way I could have possibly seen this coming, etc., I effectively talked myself out of avoiding some very bad situations and bad relationships in the past. If you are interested in truly honing your intuition, here are three skills that will help you do so:
1. Meditation or reflection. Find a quiet place, sit and listen to your “inside.” Acknowledge when mundane thoughts come in, such as, “I have to do the laundry,” and let these thoughts go. Focus on your breathing and pay attention to what comes up for you.
2. Focus and be specific. For example, think of a new person you may have met. This could be a person you met at work, at the gym, in a bar or anywhere else for that matter. Focus on your very first impression of this person. What did you “sense?” What thoughts, images or feelings came up?
3. Practice. Write down, if you can, any first impressions you get of people, situations or before you have to make a decision. For example, if you meet a person who seems “shady,” write that down and also note why you sense that. Check back with this “journal” a few weeks later and check on how accurate you were.
To start strengthening one’s intuition, one has to get in touch with oneself first and be aware of how one feels or what one senses. I, personally, have a hard time explaining why I sense what I sense about people at times. There have been numerous situations where people would tell me how great someone is and I would meet them and think “this is a time bomb ready to go off,” or “wow, he/she has everyone fooled but I am sensing that this person is …”
I find that the five senses are the easiest to fool. It is this “sixth sense” that tends to be dead on and extremely accurate!