Do you really know what it is to feel someone’s pain or happiness? Red helps us understand this power and ability in powerful post.
Gift or Curse?
Srividya from Hyderabad asks:
I am a 20-year-old girl. Recently, I discovered that I can feel the feelings of the people who are close to me. It is like a gift and also a curse. I can understand other’s feelings and pain and I cannot be happy if someone around me is unhappy. I can’t even differentiate between my feelings and other’s feelings. Lately, I am having feelings of committing suicide, however, I am in a very happy place in my life and I am positive about my future. Sometimes the feelings are so intense and I can’t control it. I doubt that those feelings belong to my ex because I can feel his feelings since the beginning of our relationship. I decided to end the relationship and I am not talking to him anymore. I know that he was in another relationship and the girl left him and he is very sad about it. I don’t know how to stop this. Please tell me how to break this connection. Please help me. If you need help with your own feelings and emotions maybe you should call a psychic today.
Psychic Red ext. 9226 Responds:
It seems like you are coming into full-blown empathy capabilities. This can be a totally disrupting and unnerving experience. The problem is, it’s natural. That makes such a thing so much harder to tune out or to shut down. It’s not like you asked for this; it’s just something in you and it’s a part of you. So now you are faced with the very lonely challenge of understanding your gift so that you can control it.
The first thing you are going to have to learn to do is separate your feelings and emotions from those of other people. It seems, at least to a degree, you do have some working knowledge of the difference, even if you don’t fully realize it. This is good. But, it is also something you need to embrace and explore deeper in order to discover full clarity.
You are not a low energy or suicidal person. My heart breaks that you sometimes feel this depth of pain from others. While it is hard to shoulder, it isn’t your burden to carry. You are in a very difficult spot because it’s not as if you can really open up and tell a whole lot of people what you are experiencing, much less get the support you need. Of course, we are here for you at California Psychics, and so many of us understand because of our own experiences. We’ve been through it. But, if things get to heavy, please don’t hesitate to reach out for help. Sometimes a voice on the phone is enough to see you through the roughest moments. If you can’t call us, don’t hesitate to call the suicide hotline at 1-800-273-8255. I really don’t see you falling to that extreme, but I’d much rather you have access to help and not need it, than need it and not have it.
Once you learn to differentiate your own feelings from what you are picking up from others, you may not be able to block everyone else out entirely; but you will be able to create a guard or a wall that keeps you from being completely consumed with their feelings. I have to warn you, this doesn’t come easy, and everyone is “wired” a little differently, so you may have to explore a few options and practices to find what works best for you. It would be great if you had a teacher or coach, preferably someone local, but that is not going to be easy for you to find. Again, many of us here on the line would be more than happy to work with you.
A couple of simple techniques that may help you to block out the chatter that has proven to be successful for blossoming empaths involves a lot of meditation, visualization, and breathing techniques. You are going to have to experiment, practice, and find out what works best for you.
Like you, I have a hard time being out in public, or in crowded areas or venues. So, I lead a pretty solitary life. That really doesn’t present as an option for you. Your future is laden with people, events and travel. There’s actually a lot of fun and opportunity in store for you. So you do need to learn how to “defend” yourself from those who surround you.
I will share with you what works for me, but it doesn’t mean that this is necessarily going to work for you. While this may not sound like fun, I want you to embrace your gift. Let your senses guide you. It will become easier for you to discern whose feeling are assaulting you and this will also make it easier for you to block such energy out.
In your mind focus on building a wall or a bubble that surrounds you. Mine is sparkly sky blue and faces me while a sleek, silvered pool of mercury faces the rest of the world. Try envisioning yourself surrounded by something similar, but the colors and textures may be different for you. Allow your own instincts and intuition to guide you. While you are envisioning this safeguard, breathe. I like to inhale through my nose to the count of 8, hold for 5, and exhale through lightly parted lips to the count of 16. Again, this is what works for me. It may or may not have the same calming effect for you. As I breathe, I place myself into that bubble with the beautiful, but strongly protective walls. By doing this, the thoughts and feelings of others fade into background noise and sensation for me. It becomes just a lot of murmuring and sensation at the back of my mind. It’s there, but no longer taking over me. I hope this technique will do the same for you.
Spend some time each morning and night in either meditation or prayer, or both, with your intentions being that you only receive what must be made known to you.
You have a gift. But that doesn’t mean it can’t feel like a curse, too. Many of us here at CP really understand what you are experiencing. We chose to embrace it, to hone the gift into a skill, and maybe someday, you will too. For now, it’s much more important for you to understand what is going on, and how to live with it in a manner that is supportive and productive to you. Just because you’ve been gifted doesn’t mean you’re obligated to use it. That is something that is entirely up to you.
You can choose for yourself if this gift is something you want to be a part of your life. If you don’t want it, in time, you ability will weaken and fade, and be much less accessible to you. But, it’s going to take time, and some conscious work and effort on your part before it fades away. There’s no quick fix, but there are ways to manage what you are experiencing.
I wish you the best of luck and I know you will achieve success. So let go of the fear. In as few as three weeks, you can be able to block much of the unwanted knowledge that comes to you. You are strong and a good life lies ahead of you. This is nothing more than a challenging choice that has been presented to you. Know that, and you will find peace. You rule your gifts, they don’t rule you.
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