Lynett from San Francisco, CA asks:
I feel like your post regarding sleeping with your ex is directly related to me. I have been struggling with this for about eight years, and I’m sick of it. I can’t seem to make it go away, or make it work. We keep getting together on the astral plane, and the story is always the same with different details. We’re breaking up. In the physical life, this relationship was over for me thirty years ago. Why does it keep dragging at me on the astral plane?
Psychic Red ext. 9226 Responds:
Many of us have, create or deepen our ties and bonds with the people we meet and connect with during this lifetime. Knowing that some relationships simply aren’t meant to be or in our best interest doesn’t dissipate the energy or the bonds. It would be nice if it did, but more often than not—it just doesn’t work that way.
While this relationship meets every barrier and challenge possible in “real time,” anything is possible on the astral plane. Both of you seem guilty of pulling at each other, but not in a conscious way. It’s just there still is a tie, and a whole lot of unfinished business. This makes it very easy for either one of you to “connect,” and meet up in the in-between.
It’s weird—in so many ways you have closure, and a sense of acceptance and understanding. But, that is the conscious you. The subconscious you seems to have some different ideas, and that helps allow you to get “sucked in.” What you need to realize is, there really are things you can do about this in order to feel more in control, and free… at least for the rest of this incarnation. You and your ex will have another chance to get it right, but that is for another lifetime.
There are some things that you can do in order to deflect some, if not all, of your astral interludes. Please understand that these things can take time and practice, though. Spend some time in meditation and reflection, and visualize any cords or ribbons that tether the two of you together, and see yourself breaking or cutting these bonds. Some people find it effective to tie knots or to burn the severed images, reinforcing the belief that the tethers cannot and will not find their way back into a solid connection. This practice should be done with love and kindness, not anger or resentment. It’s about liberation and freedom, not pain or loss. Other people find that through visualization techniques, surrounding themselves in a bubble of protective light, glass or a reflective surface can help them from being “drawn in and pulled upon” by the other party. There are also many accredited and respected Reiki practitioners who can help to sever the energetic ties, and release you from the sensation of bondage, frustration and powerlessness you sometimes find yourself pondering.
There are many different options to see you through the process, but you do have to understand that while you have consciously let go and want to move on, subconsciously that message isn’t quite as clear. While the subconscious cannot always be controlled, it can be retrained.
It looks to me like you can do this on your own, but you may find it easier to enlist some help. Help is good—but keep in mind, true help doesn’t cost a gazillion dollars and come with promises that all will be fine without you doing a thing. Your peace and freedom is in front of you, and your astral meetings and confusions will come to an end. There is a good-bye that you are going to render astrally, and at the moment you feel the shift, you’re also going to know that you are free.
I hope this helps you.
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