Izzy in Nutley writes:
I am married and have had a lesbian affair…I broke it off but miss it immensely. I just need to know if she still is in love with me as I am with her.
You made your choices and now must come to terms with the consequences. You chose the path of staying in your marriage and letting your lover go. This is your reality.
While there are many fond memories attached to the affair you shared with this woman, when you cut her loose, she chose to embrace that freedom. She didn’t really have any other alternative, because she is not the type to sit around and pine over a love gone wrong.
Your lover has a range of emotions that get stirred up when she thinks of you, but she is not still in love with you as you are with her. As far as she is concerned, the affair is over and love has faded away.
Holding too tightly to times of the past can be a bit destructive, and fuel the emptiness that you feel. When you think of her, smile for what once was and be happy that she is free to find a lover with whom she can build a life. Sometimes the truest act of love is moving on and not looking back. This is what she has done for you…
Try and find happiness and contentment in the life that you have. You have no choice but to move forward, without your lover.