In the new post Why People Habitually Cheat, Psychic Tansy ext. 5289 reveals why people are unfaithful… and our readers weighed in with serious opinions on both sides of the issue.
Our reader Coral writes:
I’m one of the cheaters that you’re talking about. I’ve been married for almost 30 years to a very mean and abusive husband. He always has to be in total control of me and our three kids (who are grown). He took away my friends first, had me quit my job to be at home and take care of him, sold our house because my male neighbor talked to me… and now we live in a wooded area with no close neighbors! I’ve tried to leave but he stalks me. I was fooling around one night about a year ago on a website for singles. I got a few hits, and talked to one guy that was really nice for a while. A few weeks later we met… things just happened from there. He treated me like a human being! He didn’t put me down – he just let me be me. I have been seeing him for a year, and he is what makes me happy. I told my husband recently that I’m extremely unhappy and that I cry all the time. He gave me “permission” to go and see a shrink. I know it’s wrong to cheat on him. Maybe seeing a therapist will help. I need to start doing what’s best for me…
One of our readers, Donna writes:
I’m a victim of a cheater. We had been married for 20 years when I learned about it. I was so trusting during our marriage, I never dreamed he would cheat…While we were going through the divorce, I found out he had cheated on me more than once. What I cannot figure out, really, is why. He had someone who really loved him. We had a nice little home and a beautiful daughter… it’s hard to reason the motive. My hunch is that he didn’t feel worthy of me. I thought he was fine… some are foolish and fall for the tricks the mind plays. Here’s hoping others will never have to experience the pain and betrayal that I have felt. Maybe just one person who has cheated on their spouse will read this and stop their behavior. Then all I’ve been through won’t be in vain.
(On a side note, according to our recent poll, 54% of people admitted they have cheated vs. 46% who say that they haven’t.)