Is Love Ever Free?
One would love to think that in the realm of unconditional love there are indeed no conditions. Fat chance of that happening! The old saying “If you love someone and you let them go, and they come back, they’re yours” comes to my mind as I think about all the conditions we put on our loved ones in order to maintain a “happy” unconditional relationship.
Stipulations, clauses and requirements… if these things don’t exist in a relationship, then how do you keep it together?
As much as I like the idea of loving someone and being loved without condition, it leaves so much room for the relationship to fail. We enter into a marriage for many reasons—health benefits, having children, buying a home, etc. Without these conditions, you can still love the person, yet without the benefits of a legal contract it can create holes in the relationship that could cause the relationship to fall apart.
I do so many readings where the couples have been together for many years, and they’re not happy, because their conditions aren’t being met. So on to my next question: “What does unconditional” mean? Here are a few words that reflect this energy: absolute, unrestricted and unreserved.
I like the absolute part, and to be loved absolutely is a good thing… then I think of what unrestricted and unreserved mean without boundaries or limits, and I wonder, is that possible? Are expectations the same as having conditions in a relationship? No, I don’t think so; I think conditions are a mutual contractual group of energies put together so that everyone in the relationship has an understanding of how to get the most joy, love and happiness out of being together.
All that good stuff said, there’s the love where someone wants someone no matter what, even if that person doesn’t want to be with them. That’s the worst part of conditional love: the person says “I love them so much I would do anything for them, I have done everything, and no one is ever going to do more or love them more. So why don’t they love me, and how can I make them love me? If they don’t want to be with me, I don’t want them to have anyone!” Oh boy, is that unconditional love or what? I don’t think so.
These types of calls hurt me, knowing that there is someone else to be loved and will love the person calling even more. In my humble opinion, if you love someone so darn much, then I would think that you would want them to be the happiest they can possibly be, even if it means being without you.
Someone once said to me during a reading that they would rather see the person they love dead than with someone else. I’m still reeling from that one. In the end, does unconditional love even exist? I think that if you’re in love and in a good relationship, you would make it work for the highest good for the both of you. Respect, kindness and compassion figure in deeply to a healthy relationship.
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