While lying is not gender specific, men lie because of many reasons: they don’t want a relationship, sexual monogamy is important to you and so on. So what are the reasons that men lie to women?
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Nikisha from Georgetown asks:
Why do men lie?
Greetings, Nikisha. Lying is hardly gender specific. Though all animals have a propensity for deception in rudimentary forms, we humans really have cornered the market on the art of lying. As our language and communication skills evolved, so did our social game with simple survival and mating opportunity being the prime motivators in our kingdom. There are some theories in evolutionary biology that tie the human propensity to deceive to mating strategies and males no doubt utilized such methods to propagate as much progeny as possible. But if men were the only species members to use lying for mating or survival strategies, then only men would lie well. And sorry to say, that just ain’t so.
I think what you’re really asking is why men lie to you. Men lie to you about wanting a relationship because few men really want relationships in this day and age and you do. And men lie to you about sleeping with other women because you hold sexual monogamy as an ideal and they find it easier not to rock the boat. Not to be outdone, studies show women lie most (and best) when they’re lying to their supposedly monogamous partners. All people lie, Nikisha. You lie too. But the biggest and most destructive lies are the ones we tell ourselves. Drop all that self-deceit and you’ll be surprised how easily you see through other people’s bull. Once you do that, believe it or not, authentic people can be found… men included. Diogenes searched the world for one honest man and came up empty. I don’t know if you’ll fare any better, but I do think you’ll find someone who is kind and good to you. Just be honest.