How many times do you feel a connection with an ex boyfriend or girlfriend? Do you still want them physically and think that maybe casual sex would be great for you. Figuring this out and making a move can be difficult. Each situation may be different but Liam explains it is more up to you than you think.
Casual Sex With an Ex?
Leslie from Louisville, Kentucky:
Do you think that having sex with a ex is okay if you still love him and want to have sex with him, but he is too scared to be with you again? Get personalized advice for your love life, contact a psychic today!
Greetings, Leslie, and thank you for writing. Sexing the ex seems to be a hot topic and though everyone has an opinion, this subject, like so many others, is highly subjective. As a direct answer to your initial question, I would say it’s always okay to have sex with anyone if that’s what you want to do and the law permits the act. In western culture, we cling to centric thinking in most social situations, taking comfort in the notion of absolute rights and wrongs. I’m afraid you’ll have to go post modern on this one and embrace the idea that it doesn’t matter if something is right or wrong according to some social measuring stick. What matters is whether it’s right or wrong for you. That means you need to get into a seriously introspective mood and scan your own internal programs.
As you do so, be aware that for straight men sex with an ex is not, under most circumstances, a prelude to reconciliation. This is a major difference between the guys and the girls. Women often agree to have sex with an ex with an expectation of rekindling the relationship. Men on the other hand bed the ex because she’s often easy pickings… a familiar lady who still has feelings for him and is perhaps in a vulnerable state of mind. Men will always go for easy targets. Some of them will actually keep harems of ex-girlfriends and string them along, adding to the numbers, revisiting bedrooms with a little schmoozing and maybe a liberal application of tequila. From what I see, your guy is no harem keeper. But I don’t buy that he’s “scared” to get back with you. What he is is very content to get sex from you with no strings attached. Any straight guy would be.
My main concern in this is you. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with sleeping with your ex as long as you’re realistic about the result. The problem is, I keep getting the feeling that you’re doing it not only because you secretly want this guy back but worse, because you’re afraid to move on. This man knows you. He knows your body; your likes and dislikes. The two of you have chemistry. You hate the thought of having to go out and start all over with someone new. The whole thing is such an ordeal. It’s risky and frightening and you’re thinking it would be so much easier to just stay in the rut you know. Look, you can keep having sex with this guy if you want but please do it for reasons that are healthy for you. If you’re just using him, and the sex, as an emotional crutch, then it’s time to let go. But I think you already knew that.
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