You broke up, but you can’t seem to get over them. Your heart still aches for them. Is it time to forgive, let go and move on?
Forgive to Find Closure
Tanya from Boston asks:
I cannot get over a man who I haven’t seen or heard from in months. Do I need more time, or does this mean I shouldn’t let him go?
Psychic Red ext. 9226 Responds:
Sometimes the people who come into our lives can leave quite a deep impression. In your case, there’s a couple of things going on when it comes to your inability to simply forget about this man.
It is said that absence can make the heart grow fonder, but in your case, the silence is only serving to make the frustrations gain power. This guy is not going to be an easy one to forget, partly because this is a karmic relationship, and there is also a serious lack of closure that shows up between the two of you.
On the brighter side, you will hear from him again. However, although he is apologetic when he reaches out to you, and part of him is looking for forgiveness as well as the possibility of a second chance, this opportunity presents as one you should use to your immediate benefit rather than a long-term possibility.
For now, let him go as best as you can, because the situation is completely out of your hands. He is more concerned with his current relationship than he is with you or how things were left between the two of you. Even though he still has feelings for you, you’re firmly seated in a “Plan B” perspective from his position. This is seriously not beneficial to you, especially when you throw in that he has a tough time being open and honest about his feelings when things are “good.”
As time goes by and he grows up, you just may come to the conclusion that he isn’t what you truly want or need. Just because you ultimately can have him, doesn’t mean that you should be accepting.
The past life history between the two of you is quite strong, and that makes getting over him more difficult than what you’re used to. But just because the two of you were afforded the opportunity to correct past life issues in this life doesn’t change the fact that he did not make the most of the opportunity. Please don’t take that as something negative or personal, because it’s not, it just is.
You will have the opportunity to decide what you want to do with/about him, but that is still months upon months away. I’m not getting a clear time frame, but don’t be too surprised if he tries to rekindle things in November. There is a strong possibility that you will randomly hear from him before that, but these communications don’t hold the weight of any significant changes.
Take all the time you need to process this man, your relationship with him, and how he has impacted your life. But do not put your life on hold in order to go through these processes. He has a lot of emotional growing up to do before you can seriously consider him your equal. Until he reaches that stage of his life, the endless, active waiting only serves to cause you pain and keep you still.
I hope this helps you.
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