A man must choose between two women: his wife and a woman he met in Finland that he strongly believes is his soulmate. What is the right decision?
Who is My Twin Flame?
Destination Unknown from Calgary asks:
Hi, This whole twin flame/soulmate connection has me really confused. I am positive I have met my twin flame/soulmate while on a business trip to Finland. The meeting was very accidental and it was very powerful—we talked so easily and comfortably. We spent a few hours together and when I was on the plane heading back to Canada I could not stop crying. This has me really confused and doing things I would not normally do. I am married to a wonderful woman, but we have grown apart in the last few years and I am not sure what my next step is. I have since been back to Finland to spend time with the person who I feel is my twin flame. The feelings were so powerful between us, but I ran, and I feel nothing but pain now. Why did I run? I feel it is because of the powerful connection I have with this person. She also feels the same connection with me and I feel her pain when she is suffering. This is very confusing and wonderful at the same time.
Psychic Red ext. 9226 Responds:
Dear Destination Unknown,
Let’s be honest here for a minute. As painful as it may be, you know exactly where, and with whom, you belong. You are at a crossroads, my friend. The miserable part about it is you have to figure out what you’re going to do with it.
Your wife is a lovely woman and there is a lot of shared history there. But, it’s not she who fills your mind in the morning, nor is it she who is your last thought at night. Even though you care for and about her, can you honestly say that you are still in love with her?
Unfortunate as it may be, your wife—who has done nothing wrong—is still caught in the crossfire. Don’t kid yourself into thinking she hasn’t sensed a change in you, because she has. Unfortunately, this means that you need to step back, take some honest time for yourself, and decide what kind of life you really want to have.
Your marriage is a saveable entity. So, it’s not as if things are so far gone that you can’t find happiness and peace within it. You can. But, you are going to have to want to.
You ran from your lover, pretty much out of sheer guilt. Things actually felt too right. But, because you are an essentially good and caring person, it was almost too much to bear. The guilt comes from a place of knowing that sacrificing your marriage to be with your love wouldn’t be as difficult as what you fear. It actually makes sense to you, somehow.
The worst thing you can do to yourself, not to mention these two lovely ladies, is to take too much time trying to sort through it all. Your lover knows you aren’t free—but she can’t help how she feels. Your wife knows that you have become jumpy, secretive, and bordering on unhappy—but she doesn’t know how to fix it. A very large part of her is afraid to ask for the truth, because she’s fairly certain that she isn’t going to like what she hears. Sometimes it’s easier to deny what is known than to face it head on.
If you were a selfish person you would have already dumped your wife and would be with your true love. It is the sense of responsibility of the life you’ve built that keeps you still. But, even in your stillness, you are yearning to fill the void that only your lover can fill.
You may feel like your destination is unknown, but it is not unknown so much as undecided. You very much are at the most major crossroads you will encounter in this life. It’s a heavy burden to bear, knowing that your choices will effect others almost as much as they effect you. It doubly sucks because there isn’t a clear right or wrong answer out there in the ether just waiting for you. Truthfully, there is no “wrong” answer; only decisions to be made and the proper actions to take. Happiness will follow, regardless of the path you take.
If you choose to stay with your wife, you will save yourself from a lot of explaining, and will remain in good standing with friends, family and the community. In many ways this looks like an easier road, not to mention the more logical path.
Your lover will not wait forever. She is destined to have a happy future, and a marriage that is based on love. She can fulfill that destiny with you. However, if you do not decide how you wish for your future to evolve within the next 16 months, she will move on and fulfill that destiny without you.
You aren’t a bad guy any way I look at you, but you definitely need to learn that you aren’t cut out to live a double life. The guilt that you encounter being torn between two women doesn’t serve you, or either of them. So take a bit of time for yourself, and really examine your options and the repercussions. While you certainly aren’t in a losing situation, whichever victory you choose to accept comes at a price. Decisions need to be made, but only you can make them. So, search you’re soul, excluding guilt and the concept of wrong or right. Whichever love calls to you and makes you the happiest is the one you will ultimately choose. Even though it’s hard, your truest obligation is to you.
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