Past Lives and Relationships: Do They Mix?
Thach Vang from Westminster asks:
Are we destined to end up with someone we have a karmic connection with? I’ve recently met a guy and now I feel a strong bond and a familiar, comfortable connection that is indescribable. He made me feel like being next to him is exactly where I’m suppose to be and he makes me feel protected and safe. I’ve never, ever had that same feeling with anyone before. The problem is he’s the ultimate playboy. I feel like a past life or something that is stronger than either one of us realizes is drawing us together. He’s completely wrong for me, yet I’m drawn to him. I’m also dating other men who are much more mature and much more open to commitment and I really like them a lot. Am I destined to be with him because of our karmic bond or is it possible that I may end up with someone else? Should I even consider him as an option even with all his negativity towards relationships and commitment?
Psychic Red ext. 9226 Responds:
Many of us do choose to bond with and commit to someone with whom we share a karmic connection. But it’s just that—a choice. While destiny may dictate that you will have a committed relationship and marriage, destiny doesn’t dictate that you have only one option. The Free Will Factor: it’s a beautiful thing and a nuisance all at the same time.
You’re playboy friend isn’t ready for commitment, or even to settle down just yet. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t enjoy spending time with him, but it is cause for you to keep your expectations in check. Because of the strong karma and chemistry between the two of you it’s not going to be easy, but, it’s also not impossible. Save yourself the pain of unmet expectations by accepting that this man is not going to be ready to settle down for a few more years.
You have a lot of say in who you choose to be your mate and partner. While you might be drawn to the badboy, you aren’t going to settle for someone who isn’t willing or equipped to dedicate the same level of energy to a relationship as you. While Mr. Badboy is more exciting and enticing than some of the other men you have circling you, part of you seems to know that he isn’t going to change for you, at least not at this point in his life. As long as you continue to remind yourself of some of the imbalances, you’ll be able to navigate this time, and man, quite successfully. However, if your choice is made and you have your heart set on him, be accepting that the level of commitment you desire in a relationship is going to have to wait. You can catch this guy, and keep him, but you aren’t going to change his readiness in terms of timing no matter how badly you may want to.
I hope this helps you!
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