Red Responds: He’s Attracted to Someone Else

One reader wants to know if it’s normal to be attracted to someone else when you’re already in a happy and committed relationship. Red offers some insight that attraction is normal, but acting on those impulses is another thing entirely.

History Doesn’t Always Repeat Itself

Sonia from Pune asks:

Why are people attracted to someone else when your present partner does everything to keep you happy?

Psychic Red ext. 9226 Responds:

Dear Sonia,

Even in the confines of a loving and supportive relationship, many of us may find ourselves attracted to someone other than our partner. It’s primal human nature. Even when we are committed to our partners and relationship, sometimes we wonder about others, find particular things about another undeniably attractive. As human beings, we are here to experience a plethora of thoughts, feelings, and realities.

Sometimes, we are drawn to another because of a past-life connections. Other times, that outside influence has physical, mental, or emotional traits we find attractive or desire to experience. Attractions can be physical, chemical, emotional, and/or intellectual. Some attractions are fleeting, and others have a stronger hold. But, as individuals, each of us has a choice as to whether or not we want to explore an attraction further. Some will, some won’t.

People are more likely to open themselves to an outside attraction when they are discontent with some aspect of their current relationship, or more often, themselves. Finding yourself attracted so someone else, or learning that your partner is, may not be pleasant – but it is also an opportunity to know yourself and your partner more deeply. It is an opening for honesty, if there is something lacking in the relationship. It is also an opening for validation; for many will focus twice as hard on their partner and relationship as they sift through understanding why they were attracted to an outsider.

Just as every person is unique, so is every relationship and attraction. The best way for you to gain more insight into your situation really would be to connect with a psychic for a personal reading. Getting a one-on-one reading will allow for much more detail and in-depth insight as it pertains to you and your situation. For now, let me just assure you that history isn’t always destined to repeat itself, and in time, you will find the safety and understanding you are looking for.

I hope this helps.

Brightest Blessings,


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3 thoughts on “Red Responds: He’s Attracted to Someone Else

  1. Reed x 5105Reed x 5105

    Red did a great job answering, I have one more thing to add:
    This part of the original question – “…when your present partner does everything to keep you happy…”

    There are simply going to be times when you cannot do everything to keep your partner happy, nor should you have to. It is not one person’s job to keep another person happy. Ultimately, each person is responsible for his / her own happiness. If your partner is not happy with him/herself, there is likely to be little you can do to make them so.

    You can communicate, you can set boundaries, you can set examples, you can set up a healing environment… In other words, you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink.

    One of the comments asked how a psychic could help –
    A psychic can help in many ways – here are just a few: by guiding you in ways to communicate that will be the most effective, help you to set healthy boundaries, teach you how to set the example that will speak loudest to your partner, and set up a healing environment for your partner and your relationship, help you to know what would make your partner have a new attraction to you. Just because your partner finds someone else attractive doesn’t always mean you need to give up and accept the loss.

    If you are the one finding someone else attractive, a psychic can help you find out why if you do not already know.

    Best wishes,

  2. Marc from the UK

    Nicely written and informative, it helps me not to feel guilty or bad if I am attracted to someone else while content at home, I believe it is our primeval programming that we are always on the alert to being attracted to others as we are always on the alert for foraging for food and water! It is how we have survived and got this far as a human race. This however does not excuse bad behaviour!

  3. sarang tamhne

    Dear Red,
    Your reply to the question about one getting attracted to someone else outside our relationship is very meaningful.I have gone through this experience and have put time and effort to understand why this happened.Just as you have written this has helped me to understand more about myself and my role in my relationship which I have lost.

    I totally believe that history doesnt need to repeat itself and discovering myself will help me not to repeat losing future relationship.

    My only sceptisism is How will connecting to a psychic will help?

    Just like death and divorce loosing your loved one is a reality of life.One needs to be brave to accept it.We all know the reality but are in denial and weak to accept it.Hence we turn to a psychic…………


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