Red Responds: Stay in Relationship or Leave for True Love?

Our true love or a soulmate can come to us at any point in our lives, even when we’re in another relationship or marriage. Should we stay in our relationship or be with the one we love?

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LD from Atlanta, Georgia asks:

Can a relationship ever really make it? Even though it started incorrectly (example a love affair)?

Psychic Red ext. 9226 Responds:

Dear LD,

Generally speaking, relationships not only have the ability to endure, but they also have the possibility to thrive! So, yes, it is possible to “make it.”

One of the core issues people struggle with these days is “relationship pressure” —if you’re not involved, or haven’t found the right mate by a certain date. This is a pressure we have created for ourselves, and one that often times leads us to make relationship mistakes.

Most of us are in love with the idea of being in love, and rush into or push for that “forever” commitment. Sometimes, both people have enough strength and character to get through the roughest times, and find themselves bound to an appropriate mate. Other times, people recognize that things aren’t quite right and turmoil ensues. Very often, the first person we choose to commit to may not actually be the right person to be committed to.

It really isn’t all that uncommon to be in a relationship when the “right one” comes along. Depending on the individual, some will choose to honor commitment, but others will choose to honor love. Unfortunately, there are also those individuals who are so tormented by confusion and conflict that they honor neither commitment nor love. By the time they figure out that they should have created a little chaos in order to obtain bliss, they may find themselves in a position of continual searching for relationship happiness. Free will may be one of the greatest gifts given to the human race, but it certainly can cause complications.

The relationships that do stand the test of time and endure the ups and downs of life can be seen in part as destiny, but there’s also a lot of hard work involved in order to create that happy outcome, too. Love is not constant. The way we feel love and send love is always shifting and changing. It impacts the individual and their partner. Some couples work with these fluctuations to find and maintain joy, and other couples or individual parties use these fluctuations to change their path. While not every relationship is meant to last forever, some are, and do!

True love may seem fictional because it isn’t the easiest thing to find, but it does exist. Those who are wise enough to recognize what they have, regardless of when or how it came about, will defend and protect their relationship and their loved one until death.

Keep in mind, we humans are the ones who have created the rules and laws of relationships, and often honor those concepts more than our individual Spirit. Some people push aside the laws of Man in favor of the guidance of Spirit. Words and paper cannot guarantee a lasting relationship. However, those who regard love and relationships as more of a spiritual union are the ones who seem to be able to more easily find the right mate, and nurture their relationship from one life into the next.

I hope this answers your questions, and inspires you to keep the faith!

Brightest Blessings,


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8 thoughts on “Red Responds: Stay in Relationship or Leave for True Love?


    Dear Daphne i feel sorry for you i know your power of heart is more than your physical senses
    you are one of those rarest person who wants to see others happy and the guy who has left you has done the biggest mistake of his life i wish i will get a person like you as my friend and DAPHNE don’t be heart broken i believe in you and everything will become all right

  2. Daphne

    I believe it is spirutual as well and when you have a deep rooted connection like that, it’s hard to ignore. I chose to follow my heart and the draw of the connection to a particular man, but he has chosen to ignore what he feels and has walked away from me with no more explanation than “he doesn’t want to feel – too much emotion, and he just wants to survive – he is happy alone. I don’t understand and I don’t believe that that is all there is. I don’t regret following my heart, though I am now broken hearted, but I believe he will regret not following his and don’t know or understand how he could do it 🙁

  3. Theresa

    Inspiring Red!

    Thank you for your guidance and “permission” to follow your heart. I feel that it isn’t always about what you feel obligated to do, but to whom you should feel the most obligated to is yourself and your own personal growth. I was with someone who didn’t support my growth or his own. I surprisingly found someone who I loved deeply and not only gave me room to grow, but supported and encouraged it. I gave up the constraints of social obligation, and I went from feeling only feeling “tolerated” to actually adored and supported! I also feel that in the long run it was better for me AND for my first partner. Sometimes you have to be in a “low” in order to spur change. Either to continue and change things in the original relationship or to create something new. In the end, it is about growth. If I had the chance, I would do it all again.

  4. Marc from the UK

    Wow! A very wise and deep article, makes sense and also puts clarity into alot of grey areas, as in some people call the relationship destiny, however it does not mean it is permanent. I like the concept that people who are spiritually aware are better able to manage a relationship, clarity and education if learned and used correctly seem to be th ebtter tools to use. LIKE IT!

  5. Mark Lacson

    Dear Red,

    How can you best describe “Platonic Love”. I have had quite a few. For those few affairs, my partner and I never had the idea of sexual intimacy or anything related to that. We just enjoyed each others’ company. She said it’s Platonic Love. Is it really?

  6. Rose O.

    Hi! Red, thank you for your advise. For me I do believe it is
    spiritual but, it has not been easy finding that special person.
    And to this day have not found it. It has been difficult and fustrating.
    Again thank you for your advise.


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