Letting Go Isn’t Always Easy
Aimee from Cheektowaga asks:
A little over a year ago a relationship ended that I really thought was supposed to be “the one.” He abruptly ended things, and a few months ago, I sent him an email to tell him all the things he never gave me the opportunity to. I guess I needed the closure. We emailed back and forth a few times, and then he vanished from my life again. I’ve recently started dating again, but I still feel my heart is not ready to belong to anyone else yet. Why can’t I move on? Were we meant to be together?
Psychic Red ext. 9226 Responds:
Sometimes things aren’t what we think, or exactly as they appear. Unfortunately, you’re experiencing the backlash of a karmetic relationship. This can be a profoundly painful and confusing experience. Sometimes, the more you try to figure things out, the more confusing things become.
I see that you’re a spiritual and have philosophical energy, so I’m hopeful that you will be able to make sense of everything I’m about to tell you, and use it to your benefit. While knowledge doesn’t immediately usurp emotion, very often it does help a person navigate through the residuals to release the baggage more quickly. This is what I hope will happen with you.
You have a very strong connection with your ex—much of which was created in your past lives. Because of the numerous shared lifetimes, a very strong karmic bond has been created. Sometimes karma can be… less than pleasant. Even though you strive to be a good, honest, and noble person in this life, some of your past lives weren’t as admirable. Please don’t think that I’m judging you or criticizing you. I’m really not. I’ve yet to meet a person, myself included, who has been the beacon of goodness in every lifetime experienced.
Back to the topic at hand, in more than one life, you and your ex have accrued karmic debt, an imbalance that follows a being from incarnation to incarnation. In order to spare you, and other readers, the gory details, I’m just going to summarize and say that you hurt and screwed over this man in several of your past lives.
Please understand that karma is impartial; it does not serve vengeance. Rather, it serves balance. Sometimes the restoration of balance can be a painful process and experience.
You believed that your ex was “the one,” and may have had predictions in readings that defined him as “the one,” because the two of you were meant to come together in this life. Unfortunately, coming together doesn’t always mean staying together. Sometimes, as in your case, it means the fulfillment of a karmic contract for one person, which usually leaves the other person struggling with pain and confusion, as you are now.
As much as I hate to be the bearer of bad news, I often have to be. Because this is your life, and your future is at stake, I would be remiss in my duties if I did not tell you that it’s over. Your ex is not coming back to you. I know that is cold and harsh, but it is much better that you know than to encourage you to hold onto false hope. Even though you did receive a measure of closure with your conversation, something in you is still hopeful that things will change, and the opportunity for a true reunion will present itself. Unfortunately, this isn’t going to come to pass. Your ex is already moving forward in his life, and you need to do the same. Even though he may be the one that got away, that does not mean you won’t find true love and happiness—because you will.
Letting go is never easy, but often necessary. Tomorrow is a new day. Face it with a brave face, an open heart, and the understanding that you’ve paid your karmic debt in love, so the future can shine brightly for you once again.
I hope this helps you.
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