Jaimie in Parsippany writes:
Friday, April 13, 2007 was a major turning point in my life. That day I was let go from my job and found out I owed more than $10,000 in taxes – due in two days. As a result of a number of emotional issues which I had been stuffing down, those two “events” were the catalysts for a depression I spiraled into for a year.
When I crawled out of the black hole, I realized that it was the greatest thing I could have ever gone through! I am a much happier person than I have ever been! I have rid myself of more than 40 years of emotional baggage. Emotionally, spiritually and physically I have never been healthier in my life and I am thrilled. The only part of my life that is still in a bit of turmoil is my career – because I have now been unemployed for more than two years (which has also wreaked havoc on my financial situation). I really want to know what it is I should be doing to find a new job because it seems like everything I am doing now isn’t working.
Can you please advise me? Thank you in advance for your love and support.
You have gone through one heck of a rough time and it is so awesome that you see it for what it is – a transformation. I want you to know that even though you are still searching for answers and direction, your story will touch, inspire, and strengthen a lot of people out there facing similar circumstances. I am so happy for you! Not about the suffering and loss to get to where you are, but because you found the fortitude to shed the shell of who you were, and allowed yourself to let go and heal.
As far as your career is concerned, keep in mind that you aren’t the same person you used to be. While I am going to encourage you to continue putting forth the traditional efforts of searching, I also want you to start thinking a bit differently, factoring in what it is that you’d like to do – rather than just what your resume says you have done. You are under-valuing yourself in your search. If you’ve learned nothing else over the past two years, you have learned that when you let go of old concepts and ideas, things start clicking into place. It’s the same with your career. Quit looking to go back to how things once were, and concentrate more on what you have to offer.
Truthfully, you’d make one heck of an advocate and eventually that’s where you will find yourself, possibly in a directorship or leader position. But that is where your path leads, not where it begins. You have opportunities coming your way, once you stop looking for a job that you reason you are qualified for, and start looking at opportunities that really put you out there talking to and dealing with people. I wish I could tell you exactly what it is I see you doing, but I don’t quite know what it is – or what to call it.
I see you taking a position that is somehow connected with both finance and some semblance of social work. The pay isn’t great, but the bonuses or commissions will be a blessing. The real reward is that you are going to actually love what you do, the difference you are making, and the better-paying opportunities that will eventually be coming to you.
It’s going to take you a while to rectify your financial world, but you eventually will. The funny thing is, when the time comes that you are making really good money, the money doesn’t matter. You are continuing down a path of liberation, and what you end up with is less of a job, and more of a purpose or mission.
While this may not exactly answer your question, I do hope it helps. Best of luck to you, and let me know how things turn out!