Red Responds: At 50, Will There Be Someone Else?

Lori in San Angelo writes:

I divorced my husband of 32 years in Sept 2006. While I loved him very much, he again was cheating on me. When I found this out, I had to let him go. What do you see for me in the future? I am 50 years old and hope that there will be someone else, but wonder about it…


Dear Lori,

I’m so sorry to hear that your husband went schmuck but I must say, I do like your style!

While at this time I’m not seeing a marriage, I do see that you will have a “gentleman friend.” Apparently, you are a pretty independent woman, because the marriage is only at bay because you refuse to consent.

I’d love to be able to tell you that you would be meeting someone special in the near future, I can’t. This does not mean that you won’t be entertained by a man or two and build some dating relationships and experiences. It just means that you aren’t coming across the one who can win your heart (even if you don’t want to marry him) for another three to three and one-half years.

Not to worry, though. Your path comes across neither lost nor lonely. If anything, your life is going to become more of a flurry of activity. It seems like you will become quite the social butterfly and also begin to volunteer your time. This really opens the doors for you in terms of your social life.

It is because of all this that you are hesitant to legally place yourself in the position of wife. You like your life. It is full and rewarding. Having been burned before, you are content with the love and devotion your friend has to offer, and secure enough in the relationship as it stands, that you aren’t quite seeing the need for the “next step.”

I know some of this is going to make no sense to you now and isn’t quite how you see your life unfolding; but mark my words. One day you will be calling. I can hear you now, “Red! Remember when you told me…”

Enjoy the journey!

Brightest Blessings,
Ext. 9226

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