I wrote to you a few months ago – and you advised that the relationship I was in the beginning stages of was the real thing.
I just wanted to take a moment and update you on the situation. Justin has asked me to marry him. Therefore, when you saw that we would be spending the rest of our lives together, you were dead on accurate.
This relationship has not been without its trials – he kept trying to push me away for quite awhile, until he realized that it was only him being scared. Now, because he has pushed back before, I almost expect him to try to push back again at some point before the marriage, although he does want the marriage to happen quite quickly. My question this time is whether this will be a simple exchanging of vows with hardly anyone present or will it be something larger, because I really don’t want the larger scenario, but we might not have a choice! We will see….
Formerly confused in Denver…
Dear Formerly Confused,
It makes me so happy to hear when things are going well!
I’m really not seeing too much of a problem with Justin pushing you away in regard to the marriage. Sure, he will have his moments, but I’m not seeing anything like what you fear.
With wedding plans, I think a compromise is going to be reached. While I’m not seeing a whopping big event, there is a celebration going on. The ceremony is presenting as fairly simple, with a smaller audience. It seems like afterwards, it is more of a party than a formal reception.
You know, it’s not unheard of to quietly elope for yourselves. No one needs to know if you’re already married at your wedding!
Congratulations and best of luck!