Neglected and Lonely

Samira in Geneva, Switzerland, writes:

Dear Red,

First of all, thank you for your insights and thoughtful advice in the newsletters. It is always very interesting and inspiring to read them. This message is because I can sense I am at a turning point in my life. I feel ready for change and happy about it. And I would like to make the right choices with your help. Regarding my (long distance) relationship, it’s been in “stand by” since two months now (no see, almost no talk), whereas the first months were great. I love this guy (a Pisces, I am a Capricorn) and would love our story to work out well, but I don’t want to stay in false illusions if things are over for him. I can accept that it is no longer reciprocal and move on, but I don’t want to turn the page too quickly. I need to know if we have a future. Regarding career, I am bored in my current work, whereas I would love to give my time and energy to a great cause, I am sure I could both have fun and be useful, and I am ready to study again if needed. What’s coming next? Should I stay in the same field or move completely to something else? In advance a thousand thanks for your time and help, so much appreciated.

Kind regards,

Dear Samira,

I’m very glad that you enjoy the newsletters, and pleased that you have entrusted me with your concerns. Thank you!

It looks as if your current relationship is suffering from neglect, rather than from a true sense of emotional detachment or drifting. Your boyfriend is aware of this, but shows no urgency toward putting forth the energy needed to make this a more interactive union. It’s not a lack of caring, but you and this relationship are far from the top of his list of priorities. Even though he doesn’t look at things as being over, he would let you go if that is what you decide you want.

If you choose to stay with him, things can eventually improve, but it’s going to be a long wait. While there still is potential for the two of you to build a future with one another, it doesn’t look as if that’s the path you will take. Even though you love him, and do want things to work out, there is a part of you that doesn’t want to wait.

A new man, a karmic connection, is going to be entering your life in the last months of the year. His entrance is going to influence your decisions. If you have chosen to let your current relationship go before you meet this new man, there is romantic potential with him. If you are still involved with your current relationship, you will not cross any boundaries, but you will find that you have made a new and enticing “best friend.”

Your career path is full of twists and turns, because you will find many opportunities in this life. Your first change will be taking form in February of 2011. That new friend/potential lover of yours will encourage you to be working with him. Even though you will take on a position rooted in administrative and fiscal tasks, the company — or its cause — deals with plants, trees, and the environment. It will be a rewarding move, but it’s not likely to be your last. Eventually, though this is years away, I see you as a psychiatrist or psychologist.

Keep moving forward and trust your instincts. I don’t see you making any bad decisions. Though things are changing and will continue to change, your choices will bring you success and great happiness.

Brightest Blessings,


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