Everything we do, say, feel or think with intent matters. We may own a great many things, but the only thing we truly own in life is our word!
Ever heard the saying “misery loves company?” In German the saying “Gleich und gleich gesellt sich gern,” and translates into “alike flocks to each other.” Sometimes it can definitely be beneficial to attract your equal. But, this concept tends to do the opposite in most cases. Hence, a martyr will attract people who are also martyrs, or others who feed into their stories of victimization and fear. An addict will hang out with those who support the addiction, fanatics will hang out with other “like-minded individuals,” and so on. Most of us will not go out of our way to hang out with those who are vastly different, because most of us are not comfortable with situations and people that are foreign to what we are used to.
Now, coming back to how our words matter. If I am an upbeat, light-hearted person, if I am dedicated to treating people with love, compassion and kindness, chances are I will attract predominantly others who do the same. This is why our words are so important. I, for example, have decided to no longer allow situations or individuals in my life who do not serve my higher self. It does not mean that I am vicious, mean or angrily discard whoever doesn’t agree with me! People with different ideas challenge me and provide room for growth, which I welcome. Attacking another, lashing out, being passive aggressive, mean, belittling or using bad language to bring your point across is not acceptable!
Your intent matters and is a reflection of your core values and character. Being dishonest, disloyal, mean, two-faced, insulting, a constant victim, passive aggressive or “broken” in any other way that actually affects others, affords me the right to quietly walk away. I have no attachment to changing you, or “make you see the light.” I do, however, have an attachment to only sharing time and space with individuals who support my mental, emotional and spiritual growth. So how we conduct ourselves matters big time, across ALL mediums!
People who know me will attest to the fact that I am always the “same.” I do not speak, write or act differently on the job, as I do at home. I do not have an “online” persona and I’ve never created a false profile. I am who I am across the board, because I am well aware that the words I put out there affect people and create an image of my being. Therefore, I have learned to be careful with my spoken word. I am making it a point to think before I speak and to realize that speaking negative, angry or accusatory words will only create the same in return. I am aware that no one is ever going to be inspired by rants that point fingers and make people feel bad about themselves. I am also no longer attached to who is reading my words. I no longer want to “change” people. I realize that some people will never hear me no matter what choice of words I use or what my intent is. The only control I do have is over myself!
So for those who claim that their words have no power, think again! Your words have more power than you might realize. Having to choose words more carefully also means thinking more carefully about the state of mind and emotion we are in. Choosing different words means choosing different emotions and a different mindset. And our mind, emotions and words do create our reality and do attract whatever it is we put out there. So before I send my word out to the universe, I make sure my words come from the right intent, and what is the right intent? That would be the one which serves my highest purpose!