Never Wait to Say I Love You

About 20 years ago we got our relatives together for my parents’ anniversary. Towards the end of the  evening, I recall walking outside to get some air. My aunt Mary and her husband had just left and were half way to their car. Now even as a young child she was always good to me. I remember her chasing me around just to kiss me and love me up. But she was a damaged soul, abused, at times severely by her husbands. Most of her family relations were strained at best and she was shunned by her own brothers and sisters.

I am NOT clear why, but something directed me to call her name. She turned toward me and I said to her, “I love you Mary.” She replied, “You always did.” I never saw her again. About five years later, I had heard through the family grapevine that she was dying of cancer. I asked if I could see her, but I was told that she was too far gone and only her younger sister was with her during her last days. So, I sat down and wrote to her what she meant to me. I sent the letter. She was gone a month later.

At her funeral, my aunt Fran, the woman who cared for Mary, pulled me off to the side and asked me if the letter she read to her was meant to be sarcastic. I was dumbfounded  I actually said, “Are you kidding?” But, I controlled myself and just replied, “I meant every word.” My aunt said, “I knew it.” I suppose that up until that point I had never realized just how much she had alienated herself from the rest of the family. Years later, I discussed this incident with my mother. I told her that no matter how Mary interacted with the rest of the family, she was ALWAYS good to me.

The real point is that I am grateful that I had the opportunity to tell her how I felt. She knew before she died that she meant something to somebody. She deserved to be loved, just like us all, despite whatever
stressful karma she lived through during her life. Two quotes come to mind:  “It’s the fool who plays it cool” and “All that is not given is lost,”- Hasan Pal.

52 thoughts on “Never Wait to Say I Love You

  1. browneyes

    I understand what you’re saying Fran. But I have visualized being with this man night and day and the feeling I have is like we are still together all the time. I do believe in positive thinking but I also know the difference between the real thing and fantasy. I lived in my fantasies for years when I was in a bad marriage. I dont want fantasy anymore. I am ready for real life. I do keep positive thoughts and I have seen some of the things Ive been told come true. For instance, my newfound confidence in myself. The changes in me over the past couple of months that were predicted by Jesse in the last part of March. She told me I would start seeing this man in a new light and I may change my mind about him. Well guess what? I do still love this man deeply but I also realize what a cruel thing he has been doing to me the past 10 months by coming close then
    backing off. Playing a cat and mouse game with my emotions. He knows how I feel about him and he would offer friendship then pull it away. I realize he thinks only of his happiness with no consideration for mine at this time.. I was also told by one of the readers, have forgotten which at this moment, that the universe wanted me in a different place emotionally before he could come back into my life. Its happening without me even trying. Please read my response to Cubes, not sure which blog its in as I responded from my personal email, but I hope you take the time to find it.With me being stronger and more in tuned to me, I will have the courage and the strength to see that he proves himself to me and his worth before just letting him back into my life. Even though I do want him there so badly. I had a reading yesterday with Allison. She has read for me about 3 times and she continues to say that we will be together again. The end of summer is the

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  2. Fran

    Has anyone ever suggested to you to imagine that you’ve already gotten your wish? That you and your guy are already living your dream? I know it sounds weird, but that really helps. I’ve been told that by doing that, you’re sending out positive vibes to the universe, and you’re also sending out gratitude to the universe. Basically, you’re saying, “This is what I want, and I’m so happy that I’ve got it.” If you keep dwelling on what you DON’T have, then that’s what the universe will give you…nothing. But if you dwell on what you DO have…the relationship you’ve been hoping for…then that’s what you’ll get, especially if it’s meant to be. And so many of the wonderful psychics here have told you that this is what’s in store for you, so I’d say your odds are pretty darn good. Keep on rooting for them!!
    Hey, are you sure we weren’t separated at birth or something? LOL!!! I really can sympathize with you…you want it soooo bad, you can taste it, and you’re just tired of WAITING. UGH!! I hate waiting, too. But I’m turning it around and telling myself that patience is one of the life lessons I’m here to learn. But I’m always raising my eyes to the heavens and saying, “All right already…I get it! So let me have it!” hahaha!
    Have a good night ~
    Fran

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  3. browneyes

    Thank you Fran, I know I sound really sad at times and I am sometimes. You know how it is when you wake up some mornings and these things are on your mind so much. But I am getting better. I am seeing myself differently and becoming more accepting of me, and my imperfections that I worried about for so long. I am getting out more and beginning to date with the mind set of really opening up to someone else just in case his free will keeps these predictions from happening. And I know that is a possibility. But I have to tell you that more readers have told me we would be together in the end than have said we wouldnt. So who do you think I’m rooting for? LOL. I do realize that the end result is the important thing but when you miss someone night and day it is really hard to wait. And I do try to not just wait. Lately it has been better and I expect things to

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  4. Fran

    Dear Browneyes,
    I think you might be concentrating too much on the “when” instead of the “what,” with the “what” being the end result. Gina Rose loves to tell me that she may be off a little on her timelines, but she’s known for the “end result.” I trust her. So I wait.
    Don’t keep your eye so close on the calendar. I know all too well how discouraging it can be when you’re told something will happen within such and such time, only to have that time come and go without the results you were hoping for. It’s like someone on one of the blogs said, there are so many factors that can have an effect on the timeline. If you trust in what you were told, that you WILL be with this person, then you just have to TRUST that you will be with this person. And it doesn’t hurt to pray about it either. Just take a few minutes for yourself every day, light a candle or some incense, or both, and talk God, or the Universe, or whoever you pray to, and ask to give you what you want. Say “thanks” and then go on to have a fabulous day.
    Whenever I feel down in the dumps, I remember to thank God and the Angels for everything they’ve already given me, and for all the wonderful things yet to come. That always makes me feel better.
    I hope this helps a little. You seem so sad, and I’d like to see you happy.
    Hugs, Fran

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  5. Lise

    Thanks, Kathy. I am so happy to have this wonderful forum to share with others! What a blessing!!!
    I have always had very vivid dreams, even as a child. It seems like I have had a “goodbye dream” with every person and pet I’ve been close to. I’ve also had very detailed dreams about things before they have happened. I guess I am just very lucky to be in touch that way.
    It is possible that you don’t remember dreaming, especially if you don’t sleep well through the night.

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  6. Abigail Ext 9570

    TypePadKathy,
    Before you go to sleep tell your self you are given yourself permission to rest, release all fear and anixiety to all issues you are currently expeinceing for
    tthe night. The new day will bring new light on what you may have thought to be a problem. Good luck!
    Blessings & Cyber hugs
    Abigail

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  7. browneyes

    Thank you Miss Krystal, It makes me feel good to know you think about us. Im really trying to keep the faith but Im sure you can tell I am losing it steadily. I see the person in question moving farther and farther away from me emotionally even though I have been told he will come closer and contact me. Today is 2 and a half weeks since one of the psychics told me he would contact me in 2 and a half weeks. We will see if I hear anything from him in the next week or so as another reader also predicted this same time frame for contact. I really dont expect it and am not holding my breath. I am really discouraged right now and am beginning to think that I should just give up on thinking he will ever consider me again. I sent a post at one of the other blogs this morning called “I Messed Up, Now What”. I have to be honest with you all. I sometimes wonder if you can really see what is coming. I guess because of the different predictions, some saying “Yes he is coming back” and others saying “No he is not coming back”. Who knows? Im just tired of thinking about someone that probably has put me completely in his past and out of his mind. Just wish he was out of mine. But thank you anyway for the encouragement and nice thoughts.

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  8. kathy

    No luck last night! Actually a very restless night! I think it has to do with the “gentleman” issues. Once I am a little more settled with all that, possibly I can get the sleep issues under control. I am going to try yoga tonight.
    Thanks so much!

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  9. Miss Krystal ext. 9192

    Hi there, dear.
    You are in my thoughts.
    My two texas charms…you and kath.
    keep the faith!
    blessings,
    Miss Krystal

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  10. Fran

    Hi browneyes,
    I hope you had a nice weekend. I’m sorry I didn’t respond to you sooner, and I’m sorry I didn’t make myself clearer on the timeline issue. For me, I guess for the last year, the time kept getting pushed back from one month to another few months. I’ve just been dealing with certain issues for a couple of years. But with hope and faith, I hang on, and I trust the guidance I’ve received.
    I hope that was helpful.
    Have a nice day! ~Fran

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  11. Miss Krystal ext. 9192

    thanks, chel.
    it is so interesting how we all developed in different ways.
    yet, we all get to the same place….
    we have all traveled different roads and have so much to share.
    your path sounds very rewarding.
    cheers,
    miss krystal

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  12. browneyes

    Hi Fran, I understand about free will also. But I just wondered about your timelines because of you saying you had been waiting for 3 or 4 years. Was the original timeline that far away but has been pushed farther a few months now or has it been pushed a few months at a time until it has been 3 or 4 years later and you’re still waiting? I guess that is what I was really asking. Some of my timeframes were correct on being in contact but then the outcome of personal contact and feeling the reconciliation has been pushed by some to later in the summer, or in the next couple of months. I can tell you right now that is as long as I am holding out hope. If I dont see something in the form of heading toward a reconciliation by the end of the summer, I will be moving on and not looking back at all. I am way too old to wait for several years for something that may not happen but I do still hold hope at this time. But I will be honest with you, it is waining. But I have to say that some things that were predicted did happen and they were things that really surprised me when they did. At least two things really tickled me and as my son says “They were gravy on my grits”, lol.
    I wish you luck Fran and I hope all your dreams come true. Let me know how that tan is coming along, I’m working on mine too.Best wishes to you.
    And while Im here, hello to Miss Krystal, Abigail, Liam, Seha, Venice, Nunu, and Nina. Some of my favorites. Also Red and Gina Rose of course. And any others that I havent named here. Bye everyone. Have a wonderful rest of the weekend.
    browneyes

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  13. Chel 5153

    Hi Miss Krystal, yes I am a medium … I have trained in the Spiritualist tradition with a wonderful Spiritualist Rev. here in So Cal. And I have also spent some time with Peter Close, a great medium from the UK .. he is a friend of a friend, and one night we were having dinner and he looked over at me and said “You are a natural medium, you’ll be doing a lot more work with your gifts soon.” That was about three years ago, and boy was he right!!
    I love what I do as a psychic, channel and medium. The training I have has taught me how to get verifiable information from the other side so clients know they are in communication with thier loved ones.
    One fun aspect of it all is that I often times am visited by the other side to help them heal and move on. I also do earth bound spirit healing and lifting as well. Sometimes my home feels like a throughfare for the unseen world!!
    Luckily I have had wonderful teachers who have taught me how to set protocols and employ the assistance of guides and angels, so I get to rest sometimes!!
    Thank you to all of you who are so involved with th blogs, this is really fun. I look forward to meeting you in person, it sounds like the christmas parties are the place to be!!
    Hugs to all!!
    Chel

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  14. Abigail Ext 9570

    TypePad
    Kathy
    I felt electronic stress while you were sleeping try to go with out it and see if you can get into the silence you may get the whole night sleep if you can.
    Blessings
    Abigail
    Original Message —–

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  15. kathy

    No, I don’t fall asleep with the TV on. I need the fan running, I can’t seem to sleep with the total silence. I wake up alot throughout the night.
    Thank you for your input 🙂

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  16. Fran

    Hi browneyes,
    I guess, as far as timelines go, it’s like this: as it has been explained to me, everyone has free will. So when you ask about something and it involves other people, the timeline all depends on how these other people play things out, not just how you play it out. If there’s a third person somehow involved, they can throw a wrench in the gameplan if they decide to do something that doesn’t fit the plan. For me, my timelines have been pushed back by a few months, but that’s okay. Because the important thing is that I trust in what I’ve been told, and I believe that the outcome will take place when the timing is right for all involved. (Even though I would love for it to happen NOW…lololol)
    You seem like such a wonderful, beautiful person. I really hope that you find the happiness you want.
    Ugh! It’s cloudy here this morning. I sure hope the sun comes out today. Wanna get that tan going!! 🙂
    Hugs, Fran

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  17. Miss Krystal ext. 9192

    HI Chel,
    Very cool poem. This made me think of many things…Thanks!
    Are you a medium?
    Miss Krystal

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  18. Abigail Ext 9570

    Kathy,
    Everyone dreams you are not remembering them but you do dream sweetie and your mind is just overactive you can medititate with patience and practice. Kathy do you fall asleep with the tv on in your room at night?
    Blessings
    Abigail

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  19. browneyes

    Hi Fran, I would be interested to know what kind of timelines you receive in your reading for what you are waiting for. I do still have hope at this time. But I dont sit and wait or expect it to be today. My timelines have changed somewhat and I think I know why. But some things have happened at the given times. And I know everything is not exact but I am giving this through the timeline I was given by one of my favorites and then I am giving up. I wont wait if something else comes along in the meantime. My options are open at this time. But like you, I still have tears in me because I feel in my heart that what I had last year was the right thing or I wouldnt have felt so much happiness and comfort and satisfaction during that time. But the waiting is awful so I’m not now. I dont live my days now with expectation. Ive been told to hang on but also to let go, lol. Kind of a contradiction but I think I know what they mean. I am trying now to just be happy with myself and my life as it is but I do have my bad days and I really wish I could just forget the whole thing but he is in my head as well as my heart and I cant knock him out with a sledgehammer. If I thought I could I would try.
    You have a great weekend also and I wish you the best.

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  20. kathy

    Those are both awesome stories! Thank you for sharing them. My sister has said that she knows my dad has been in touch with her. I have often wondered why he has not contacted me? Am I not open receptive or am I missing it? I am terrible about getting “quiet” and I never dream, which is another mystery to me? Any ideas, anyone?

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  21. Fran

    Wow! Are you sure we aren’t having the same readings?? LOL! Please don’t give up. If you were told that you two will have another chance, then you’ve got to try to hold onto that. I know I should take my own advice when I say that it’s soooo important to remain positive, but it’s true. You not only have to think that things will work out, but you have to FEEL it, too. Believe me, I’ve been waiting for something for three years, and even though I sometimes get down in the dumps about it, I always trust what I know in my heart to be true, and I trust the guidance, love, advice and support I receive from my much loved psychic friends here at C.P. And I keep holding on with a smile on my face (after the tears have dried!). 🙂
    It’s funny, but I wake up every morning, too, thinking that today will be the day! And even when it isn’t, I still try to make the best of it. I hope you’ll do the same.
    Have a happy, fun weekend!
    With love, Fran

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  22. Lise

    Thanks for the beautiful story, Phillip. I have lived both the positive and negative side of the situation in my life.
    At the wedding of a friend I had known since childhood, her dad was too sick with cancer to even walk her down the aisle. Her older brother pushed him along as he held her hand so that he could still give his only daughter away. It was the most touching and bittersweet moment to watch, and there was no one at the wedding who didn’t cry at that point.
    I had been very close friends with his daughter for over 20 years and spent a lot of time with the family. He treated me like just another member of the family, and I always felt he was better to me than my own father.
    During the reception, I wanted to talk to him; but being the father of the bride, he was being constantly barraged by well-wishers. Finally, I seized a short-lived opportunity to talk to him alone. I told him just how much he meant to me and that I loved him like a father, too. He was too choked up to respond, but I could read everything he wanted to say in return by the look in his eyes.
    Sadly, though not unexpectedly, he died just a few weeks later. It was not any easier when the time came, but it was reassuring to know that I had not missed the last opportunity I would have to say I love you.
    A few years later, I did miss the opportunity with my stepmother. She died unexpectedly, and at the time, she and I had not been on the best terms. Her health had been on the decline, and she began pushing people away. (Even in good health, she was not the easiest person to get along with.) She had been my caretaker many times, but I just stayed away instead of trying to take care of her when she needed it.
    Although part of the grieving process has been dealing with that guilt of not being able to say I love you to her one last time, there is a silver lining. She visited my in a dream a couple of months after her death to tell me she knew how much I loved her and that it was time for her to go. She has not visited me in a dream since then, but I still know that she is watching over me.

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  23. Fran

    Dear Miss Krystal,
    Thank you very much for your thoughtfulness. And thank you, also, for your encouraging words yesterday afternoon. You are a pleasure!
    Hugs, Fran 🙂

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  24. Fran

    Hi Gina,
    Thank you so much for your kind words. You ALWAYS make me feel so much better (and I mean always. . .like once a week! Ha!) I know that my father is in a beautiful place now, and I’ve gotten over the hurt from the loss. And believe me, I talk to him ALL the time (and to so many of my loved ones who have crossed over).
    When he died, I had the coolest dream. My sister was living in San Diego, and I was getting ready to fly out for a visit. In the dream, I was at the airport, and felt very lost. There was my father, wearing one of his famous (and dreadful) leisure suits, and I asked him, “Will you come with me?” And he put his hands in his pocket, smiled a great big smile, and nodded his head. Then we walked away side by side. I honestly believe that he was telling me that he’d be by my side, always.
    Have a wonderful day and a great weekend!
    Hugs & Love, Fran

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  25. browneyes

    Thank you Kathy. I know what you mean by not making it to the second date. I am pretty intuitive about knowing whether I am really interested in someone on the first real meeting. I dont go any farther if I dont feel something on that first date. And I dont mean feeling a lot but we know if there is attraction or anything at all to build on so I dont take things any farther if I dont think there is any chance. Or I let them know upfront that this will be only a friendship and nothing else.
    I do keep my eyes open and am receptive to those that I do have an attraction for but they never seem to feel the same way. My friends get onto me too for still having feelings for the one that walked away and say he doesnt deserve me. Sometimes I feel the same way but then I cant forget him and he is in my thoughts every day. I dont sit and wait or expect to hear from him anymore but the love that I feel for him will never die. If only he could feel love again but he refuses to. He wont recognize real love and that is so sad because I do feel that we were meant to be and we have lost that chance at true happiness and we will both be settling for less when we do find ourselves with others. Oh well, thats life I guess. I do know that we were very lucky to have each other for that short amount of time we had. It was the happiest I have ever been in my life. At least I had that.
    You and I can continue to pray for each other and with time, yes, we will find happiness again.
    To all that read this blog, blessing to you and yours.

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  26. browneyes

    Thank you Fran for those words of encouragement. I guess I know in my heart that someone is out there, but like Kathy, my heart still belongs to someone that doesnt even want it as far as I can tell at this point. I have been told by many of out wonderful psychics here that he will realize what we had and we will have another chance but sometimes I just give up on that even though I still love him very much and I guess I always will. I try to remain positive but with the continual setbacks and heartbreak from me trying to carry on it is very hard sometime. But I get up every morning with the thought that today will be a better day, sometimes it is, sometimes it isnt.
    Bless you and I wish you well.

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  27. Chel 5153

    Wonderful article, Phillip!
    This poem came to mind when I read it, and thought I’d share:
    “All that is gold does not glitter,
    Not all those who wander are lost;
    The old that is strong does not wither,
    Deep roots are not reached by the frost.
    From the ashes a fire shall be woken,
    A light from the shadows shall spring;
    Renewed shall be blade that was broken,
    The crownless again shall be king.”
    You never know who you might bless by returning the crown of love and grace to their beloved brow.
    Blessing,
    Chel

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  28. Miss Krystal ext. 9192

    Good things happen deep in the heart of Texas 😉
    I really think you both do have a lot in common just by what you two have been writing back and forth on here.
    Huggies,
    Miss Krystal

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  29. Gina Rose ext.9500Gina Rose ext.9500

    Hi Fran,
    I’m sorry for your loss….I’m sure your dad is around you, more so today, than usual.
    Remember,we are all spiritual beings here on the earthly plane,ONLY when we cross over are we truly in our ” home ” environment.
    But it’s hardest on us left behind…..Fran, your Dad is happy and at peace because he is ” home”.
    You know, I crossed twice….souls crossed over, on the other side, can hear you, see you, AND actually FEEL your emotions. Today is the day to say HI! to him, I assure, you he will receive it.
    Blessed Be )O(…Gina Rose ext.9500

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  30. Fran

    My dad passed away 29 years ago today. I was 17 years old. The night before he died, I went over to him, told him I loved him and gave him a kiss on the cheek. I don’t recall telling him those words since I was a small child. It was odd, but I felt compelled to do it. It wasn’t easy, because it was hard feeling close to my father. He was a yeller, and he always scared me. I was always afraid that he would yell at me, so I pretty much kept clear of him. But that night…something just came over me. And in retrospect, I am soooo glad that I told him that I loved him, because I did, and I still do.
    But I have to agree about not telling a man you love him unless you are absolutely certain that your heart won’t be broken. That’s happened to me, too, and I won’t make that mistake again. As Phillip loves to tell me time and time again, I need to “take back my power.” (LOL!!)
    And to browneyes, don’t worry. There IS a man out there for you. The RIGHT man. He’s just waiting for you to find him, and I bet that you will. You just have to remain positive, and thank the Universe for bringing this man into your life, even though he hasn’t manifested himself there yet.
    This blog is such a wonderful place with the most wonderful people. Thanks to ALL of the wonderful, gifted people at C.P. who help those of us who come calling.
    Hugs, Fran 🙂

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  31. kathy

    Wow, sounds as if we do have much in common! My children are 29, 26, 11 & 9. I always tease, first 2 too young & second 2 too old – LOL! And Texas in common too?! That would be very wierd!
    Anyway, I am so terribly sorry for your pain. I have dated and met other men but not come close to giving up the heart again. Don’t think I’ve made it to a second date yet. Always something wrong with them. My girlfriends get furious with me. I’m just not going to force it just to have “someone” around.
    Good for you for making the attempt again! I know I hate to hear it but I have to believe it because we are good people, that someone worthy of our love is out there and when we have healed and we have our eyes open to see him God will bring him.
    I am sorry for your sadness. With prayer and time we will be fine!!

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  32. Miss Krystal ext. 9192

    Kathy,
    we must tell the ones we love at some point we really do love them.
    It is a must. You did the right thing.
    Hugs,
    Miss Krystal

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  33. browneyes

    Hi Kathy, Miss Krystal told me a few days ago how she thought you and I had so much in common and now from one of your posts here I find that you have young ones after having children in their 20’s. My sons are 29, 22, and 11. But actually I am responding to your statement about putting it all out there in a relationship. And also to Phillips statement about not telling a man you love him first. In my last real relationship I was very careful to not say I love you first. He did say it first then continually asked me if I loved him. At first I would say I wasnt sure but then was very comfortable telling him that I did indeed love him. It was only after his family members saw our love and commented on it and our possible future together that the fear set in on him and he ran. It took me 9 months to open up again to another possible relationship and trust someone again. Then, I met a man a few weeks ago in person that I had talked to online for way over a year. We had a great friendship. When we met we clicked. He expressed wanting to spend as much time as possible with me and see where things would go. Well, I am so glad I held back and kept my head even though he was saying wonderful things to me. He told me this morning that he fell in love with someone else this past weekend. Someone he has known only a little over a month and only met in person this past weekend. So here I am again after trying to open up once again. Left behind but at least not completely heartbroken. But it does hurt anyway. But at least he was honest with me. I wished him luck and hope that she loves him as much as he says he loves her. But still leaves me wondering just what is wrong with me that no one chooses me. So tired of hearing those famous last words as the men are saying good bye to me, “You’re a wonderful woman, but….” We do all need to hear those 3 little words but I am still waiting to hear them and believe them. Sorry to go on and if this isnt fitting the blog but guess I just needed to vent.
    Those words are important but only if they are true when spoken.

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  34. kathy

    So very true! My last relationship was the first that I ever really “put it all out there”. No room for pride. Although, as of this moment it hasn’t appeared to have worked out so well for me I know that I can look back and know that I did everything to keep this relationship together, it was/is very important to me. Even if things don’t turn around for us I won’t have to wonder if my pride got in the way. I have learned valuable lessons.
    Great article!

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  35. kathy

    Thank you Phillip!What an awesome story! I was raised in a family that wasn’t very “touchy, feely” as I call it. We gave the traditional “peck on the cheek” at night to our parents but never spoke the words “I love you”. As a result, I grew up a very unaffectionate person. I have daughters that are grown, 29 & 26. I had them at a very young age and really stuggled raising them, miles from any family and their father was not in the picture very often. As a result, one daughter struggles with displays of affection and the other has had issues with being too affectionate. I was blessed with two sons later in life, they are 11 & 9. I have worked very hard to be different with them and it seems to have paid off.
    My father passed away when I was pregnant with my oldest son. I went home to see him, not realizing until I arrived, it would be the last time I saw him. I really didn’t know what to say to him and knew that I couldn’t speak with the lump in my throat. At the advise of my mother, I wrote him a letter trying to communicate how very much I loved him. My father was so wonderful. My mother teases me that it may have been hard to write, but she had to read it to him.
    My father went into a coma the night that I left and I was never able to speak to him again. I hope that I was able to relay just how much I loved him in the letter I wrote him. I don’t even remember what I said, one day I will ask my mom for that letter. I am sure she kept it.
    So, in my usual long winded way I am trying to say that is is so important to tell the ones we love just how much we love them.
    I don’t think it is ever to late to break what is carried from generation to generation if it is not in everyone that we love’s best interest. Say the words, it is so important!

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  36. Kim Taylor

    Wow, Phillip, what an impactful story for you to share! Thank you. I often recall the victim’s families of 9/11 and the thing most of them talked about later on was “the last thing they said” to their departed loved ones. It reminds me to tell my husband I love him before walking out the door, getting out of the car or hanging up the phone. If it’s the last thing I ever get to tell him, it will be an honorable thing to remember – and he’ll know he was loved. Isn’t that really the bottom line in this life? That we get to love and be loved?

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  37. Phillip# 9485

    From a male perspective, men are pretty black and white. Until a woman says”I love you” it is all fun and games. A man equates that phrase with marriage and then the wall comes up. Try Woody Allen’s “I lurve you”, lol. That might cut down on the resistance. Trust me, men go right there.

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  38. Abigail Ext 9570

    I totally agree sometimes people will look at my oldest boy when he leaves he says “I love you Mom “like he is from outta space. I worked hard at teaching my boys love. Boy by the way you know I have to throw out something here for debate though …..never tell a man you love him first I do not like saying that but for some unknown reason if a woman does that she’s in for the ride of her life. By the way why is that? Esplain Ricky LOL
    Blessings & Cyber Hugs
    Abigail

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  39. Josepha

    I agree with what you all said. It’s important to put the EGO aside and tell someone how you feel because it elevates both parties’ vibrations to a more loveing space.
    Thanks for sharing this story with us psychic Phillip.

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  40. Miss Krystal ext. 9192

    even though sometimes it is so scary while doing it. you have to walk through the fear and go for it. it works.
    for sure.
    miss krystal

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  41. Gina Rose ext.9500

    Opening up and exposing your emotions can be excellent in terms of Karmic growth, in some cases, not only for you, but for the other person as well….it gives THEM a chance to reciprocate,to set aside misunderstandings and old grudges,and heal old wounds…..when that happens…BOTH souls benefit from that experience and grow Karmically.
    Blessed Be )O(…..Gina Rose ext.9500

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  42. Miss Krystal ext. 9192

    This is a wonderful thing to share. Everybody needs to hear this. I have seen people destroy their lives because it was just too late.
    I knew a couple, seniors, anyway, the man took his wife for granted… all of the time.
    Everyone assumed that she would out live him due to his illness. Anyway, she suddenly passed away, nobody saw it coming. She was the strong one, always caring for him, doing all the work, etc.
    At the funeral, I did not know what to make of it. He was a basket case. He was towered over her as he could not let go of her. He lost it even more when we burried her. I thought how sad. He died two months later. Life is too short. The moment is now, not later. We must tell our loved ones and the people important to us what they mean to us.
    Thank you for sharing this.
    Miss Krystal

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  43. browneyes

    What an impact those three little words have. “I love you”. My oldest son is 29 yrs old. As long as I can remember he and his brothers have never parted with each other or me that we didnt say those words to each other, even if we were upset with one another. Thats the funny thing, we may be angry or something but we still say “I love you” before parting. It was the same with my parents and some of my extended family. I have thought so many times of stories that I have heard of family members parting with anger inside of them and then one of them getting killed and the one left behind that lives with the fact that the last thing the deceased heard from them was something bad instead of something good.
    Those words mean so much and should never be said lightly. If you say them, mean them. If you feel love for someone, then tell them. It can make a world of difference in their lives, and in yours. Everyone wants to be loved. Never let that opportunity go by without letting the people in your life know how you feel about them.

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