Seeing the Light on the Other Side of the Pain
Life’s disappointments come in many shapes and sizes, to people of all ages, but at the core is the same principle. Disappointment is the difference between your expectations and reality. Coping with disappointment is similar to coping with loss. Depending on the depth of your disappointment, you might experience a variety of emotions — anger, hurt, jealousy, sadness — over the course of a few hours, days, weeks, or months. When you cope with disappointment in healthy ways, you can reach a point where you not only accept it, but also learn and grow from it.
1. Allow yourself to feel the loss. One of the worst ways to handle disappointment is to deny your feelings, hoping they will go away if you refuse to acknowledge them. Buried feelings eventually surface in unhealthy ways, such as physical illness, addiction, or misplaced anger. It is better to accept your feelings, even if they are unpleasant. Remember that you are not alone. Everyone experiences disappointment; it’s nothing to be ashamed of.
2. Identify your feelings. If you can label what you’re feeling, you can deal with it in a systematic manner. Are you sad? Angry? Heartbroken? All of the above? Talk about your feelings with a trusted friend or write about them in a journal. Expressing how the disappointing situation makes you feel will help you work through those emotions and eventually get over them.
3. Analyze your expectations. Did your disappointment result from having expectations that were unrealistic? If so, adjust your expectations in future similar situations. Let go of expectations of how something should be and, instead, look at how it actually is.
4. Research the disappointing situation or otherwise educate yourself. While working through your emotions, also look at the facts surrounding your experience. If you are disappointed because you did not attain a certain goal that you had set for yourself, such as getting hired for a specific job, figure out if you could have done anything differently. Study the habits and attitudes of people who are successful at what you want to achieve and then apply a different strategy at your next attempt.
5. Give yourself time to see the disappointment in a new perspective. After some time has passed, you might realize that your disappointment was actually a blessing in disguise. Psychic Gina Rose ext. 9500, who has experienced crossing over to the other side twice, explains: “I’ve learned not to question the obstacles thrown into my path, but to view them as lessons to be learned, challenges and fears to conquer and overcome.”
Coping with disappointment requires time and a willingness to view your situation from a different perspective. If you need help seeing the big picture, call one of our knowledgeable psychics today to expand your awareness.
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