You’ve heard the saying that cheaters never prosper… but what if it’s not true? What if cheaters do thrive in some environments? And what if it’s not (completely) their fault? If you’re the repeat victim of partners who step out for a little something on the side, it’s time to consider the possibility that you’re not only being taken advantage of on this plane, but that you’re actually footing the spiritual bill!
How so? Most of the time those who fall “victim” to cheating aren’t victims at all. They may like to play the victim (“Why can’t I find a committed partner? Is anybody faithful anymore?”), but really, they’re just people who ignore their hunches in order to cling to the status quo. Whether it’s fear of being alone, concerns that they somehow deserve bad treatment or the genuine belief that no one is faithful (at least no one they could score), victim types create a petri dish in which cheaters’ bad behavior grows and flourishes… After all, some cheaters will tell you, what’s to keep you faithful when the person you’re with basically expects you to cheat? It’s almost (says cheater) like their partners are willing their infidelity!
Sound familiar? If so, ask yourself – how many times have you suspected something was going on, but chosen not to confront your mate? Or if you have confronted them, how many times have you either accepted answers that defied logic (and the BS smell test) or allowed yourself to believe their promise that “this will never happen again” even though you knew, deep down, that it most definitely would?
The bottom line? Cheaters only prosper when they don’t have to face the consequences of their actions. And if you settle for being cheated on – with very few exceptions – you’re the one who’s failing to thrive by missing out on the opportunity to share the kind of loving (if sometimes difficult) growth that an honest relationship can provide.
What do you think – what can happen if you settle for being cheated on?