How Long Do You Let People Test You?
When should you give somebody a second chance?
It’s a tough question. Should you let somebody back in if they’ve hurt you once? Twice? Three times? What if they haven’t hurt you, but you can see the pattern, and you’re sure it’s coming?
There are times in my life that I’ve believed that everybody deserves a second chance. I’ve even spent periods of time using the Buddhist practice of taking the blame for everything that goes wrong in life. Then again, I’ve also spent periods of time striking first, striking hard and striking low. Different approaches work for different situations.
It’s oft repeated that an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind, and if we constantly see bad motivations in those around us, we’re liable to end up very isolated. But then again, we live in a very confusing and demented time where people are, it seems, quite happy to screw each other over at the drop of a hat, even more so than usual as the economy has gotten so nightmarish. So what’s the proper attitude to have?
The choice is between living life completely armored or dropping the armor and living, knowing that we may well get hurt in the process.
So what’s it to be? What’s the right line between protecting ourselves and letting people walk all over us? Where do we draw the line as to how vulnerable we allow ourselves to be, and how much we let people walk all over us?
“The only person you can change is yourself. Learn to accept others as they are or move on.” – Rivers ext. 5273
And when do we break down and give a person we’ve had problems with in the past a second chance, if ever? When do we decide to let somebody back in? Do we?
It’s an open question to the readers of the blog. I’m sure everybody has a different take on it and I’m looking forward to hearing your responses.
“You will become independent again. You will start to smile again, embarking on the the new foundation that you are building. As time passes you will even feel like dating again.” – Asia ext. 5486
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