That is, if You Really Want Them Back
One of the biggest questions among people going through a breakup (other than “How can I overcome my heartbreak?”) is “How can I get them back?” Well, if you’re sure you want them back, here’s a collection of tried and true tips to help put the possibility of getting them to come back to you.
Calculate Your Odds
Some relationships have been sitting around on low heat for so long, they have grown soggy. Other relationships are burnt to a crisp, with little hope of salvation no matter how much salt and pepper you throw on it. Women in particular need to feel something for a man in order to give him a second chance. If your partner was completely nonchalant about the breakup, there is a good chance you were scraped from the pan long ago, and your chance of reconciliation is slim to none. Get personalized advice, contact a psychic today!
Get Their Friends on Your Side
Friends have a lot of influence over our lives and if you can get their approval for a reconciliation, that will dramatically increase your chances of getting your foot in the door at a later date. This can also work against you if you haven’t taken the time to foster a good relationship with their friends. The moral here is to always be friendly with your significant other’s favorite people, as you never know when one might give you a gleaming recommendation during the pre-reconciliation trial.
The Heartfelt Apology (Warning: It’s Mostly One-Sided)
The true, heartfelt apology is very hard to do, but it can be your salvation in any breakup where the fault was mostly yours. To accomplish this you will need to acknowledge your hurtful actions (validate your ex’s feelings), demonstrate your understanding for how damaging it was, offer several ways to correct the problem and ensure it will never happen again. Too many times these wonderful apologies are followed by a “but” or an “If I do this, you will need to do that” statement. This often cancels out the apology, and puts you back at square one. I understand that relationships are about compromise. However, when you’re dangling over the ocean with a scissor-happy sailor, if you really want to stay aboard, you may need to take this one-sided approach.
Take Pen to Paper
Rehashing the same old worn-out apology time and again loses its effectiveness after the… oh, say the first time you use it. If you want to prove this time you really mean it, put your thoughts on paper or digital screen. It is amazing the insight you will have about yourself when writing out an apology. It will help you formulate the appropriate words, find sincerity, and quite frankly, it will also help you keep your promises as it will become a form of written validation.
“Be kind and forgiving of yourself. We are all human, and we all make mistakes.” – Psychic Rivers ext. 5273
Introducing… The New and Improved You!
Would you buy the same bottle of shampoo if you used it once and then decided you liked another brand better? Probably not. What is the best chance for this company to get your attention now? They could change the color of their bottle, put some bling around it, perhaps a fancier pump, and then write across the top in big letters, “New and improved formula.” It is always a good idea to take advantage of a breakup to accomplish a few things that will make you feel good about yourself. Perhaps you could lose a few pounds, get a hobby, find a new job or move to a better part of town. The only caveat is, make sure you are doing it for yourself. These actions are more for your confidence, as your ex may notice the change, but it will be your renewed confidence that drives your pitch out of the park. Remember, if your relationship was truly as shallow as needing you to lose weight or get a new hairstyle to get them back, you’re better off without them!
“Trust is so important in relationships and it can be a deal breaker when trust has been broken,” says Psychic Deejay ext. 5435.
To Have or Not Have “The Talk”
The question to have “the talk” always comes up in a reconciliation. Most experts agree that you should give each other the opportunity to talk about what happened the first time around. This will bring closure and allow you to work out how you plan to do things differently the second time. This can actually improve your chances of signing the dotted line on a second-chance offer.
Now that you know how to get your ex back, a better question is, are you sure you want them back?
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