Getting over breakups can be hard enough… but in this day and age, Facebook and other social media allow for infinite cyber-stalking, or endlessly checking your ex’s profile, which makes the process of letting go that much harder. Check out the below article on the deep psychological effects of break-ups, and how the process of letting go has become extremely more difficult in the age of social media.
The Wall Street Journal reports:
I woke up one day last week to an anguished email from a friend whose girlfriend had just broken up with him. He had an urgent question: How could he take his mind off her so that he wouldn’t call or text her?
I was momentarily stumped. What advice did I have for coping with one of life’s worst experiences—losing a romantic partner? What would help him channel his energy into positive, productive activities?
It’s no secret that when we lose a lover, we tend to lose our willpower. Suddenly, despite our best intentions, we fall prey to obsessive thoughts (“What did I do wrong?”), feelings (“I’ll be alone forever”) and actions (calling, emailing, texting).
I reflected on the advice I got after a major breakup almost two years ago. “Literature, my dear, literature… ” began one email from a good friend. My mother reminded me to listen to music because “it soothes the soul.” Others suggested exercise, volunteer work, travel. All excellent advice—and difficult to follow when you are in pain.
“It’s not a heartbroken thing, it’s a brain-broken thing,” says Marianne Legato, a cardiologist and founder of the Partnership for Gender-Specific Medicine at Columbia University.
What do you think—what affect do Facebook and other forms of social media have on relationships and break-ups? Do they help relationships, or only aid in unhealthy obsession?