Help! I’m Dating a Commitment Phobe!

You’re dating an amazing individual, somebody you’d really like to get to know better. Every date this person smells and looks absolutely “smokin” right down to his/her minty sweet breath – and all is good with the world. Every date just continues to get better and better but… that old exclusivity clause somehow remains elusive. Regardless, you decide to take yourself off the market anyway to see where things might go with this person. Forgetting the key phrase “to see where things might go” with further emphasis on the word “might.

There is nothing like having a great connection with the right person, but how do you really know if somebody is the right person after only a few dates? OK so this person has a million and one great qualities, that’s absolutely fantastic. But he/she still will not commit to anything permanent with you or anybody for that matter. He/she just isn’t ready to take that big step. You however, have placed all your eggs in one basket.

Visualize if you will, a year or two down the road and he/she is still telling you…”you’re a great person, but I’m just not ready for a solid commitment.” At the very least, it is heartbreaking to devote so much time to ONLY this individual who remains ever the “commitment phobe.” I want you to think about all those expected phone calls that never came. Those weekends home alone while he/she is out doing whatever. The lonely holidays etc.

Alright … you love him/her. Understandable with all those amazing qualities, but it seems you’ve fallen in love with the emotionally bankrupt and still you continue to place even more eggs in your little basket of love. Relax… there is a cure for this strange phenomenon. Keep those dating options open, break those eggs, fry them up, scramble them, but don’t keep them all in the same basket, diversify. After all they turn rotten if not cooked. Get out and meet other people, you are, still a free agent and therefore can date others. Chances are you can meet many other great people and maybe even find the one great individual who will commit – who’s to say it’s not him/her? But you’ll never know what good things can happen if you keep all your eggs in one basket.

50 thoughts on “Help! I’m Dating a Commitment Phobe!

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  2. mary

    Thank you all for these posts and wisdom ,honesty,etc… I,m so heatbroken right now ,it shook me to the core,scary really,brought up alot of PTSD. Thought I had handlled it! I,m working on myself ,but boy it,s slow.I wrote a very nice letter to him in Jan.complimenting respect toward both of us,but couldn,t continue the pattern,very painful! He has called ,I have not returned his calls.Mostly because I,m so very sad. He is the 1st guy I really let my guard down for in 15yrs.I married a an unavailable workaholic,verbal abuser.I raised 1 boys alone for 25yrs.Ah well.Maybe I picked another version of the same.I,ll tell you I,ve never felt so close and safe with anyone as this recent loss,but he disappeared with no communication in a blink.Known each other 8yrs,can,t beleive it! Wish he didn,t live so close-2miles very hard .Ive had to see and hear of other women between breakups,3. So I,m out of it,but my heart is taken.I,m terrified not to ever trust anyone again. I thoght I was ok before this end.I feel run over by a truck. Good to be able to say a little to those who can relate,Blessings and miracles to all,Mary

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  8. tiffanyn10@yahoo.com

    I know how you feel, i’ve been throght that road twice and i have learned my lesson that I have to make myself happy first before I can make anyone else happy. The pain will ease from time to time just that you have to tell yourself be strong and life too short be happy.
    Tiffany.

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  9. Simran Kaur

    Hi Ladies, I also have to say something on this – as I myself suffered the trauma of being rejected by a commitment-phobic after putting in so much into an 8 yr. long relationship coz he could never make up his mind.
    I would say, never chose 1 but keep all the options open – untill u find that 1 who goes head over heels to get you & commits.
    But then, do not fall completely in love and never keep your love as your priority (which women tend to do naturally) as this is what gives him the power to tramp over u and walk away – rather keep him onhis toes always – never be always ever-available.
    Have a life of your own – do everything u always wanted to do – and yes, have a big circle of friends – not just men!

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  10. Tiffany

    Yes Lori i think your right. I’ve been dating this guy for 3 years and he still doesn’t want to commit. I am so emotionally torn. I try to leave him alone, but he keeps coming back. If he doesn’t want me, why does he keep putting me through this torture.I ask him about other women and he won’t talk at all. He won’t answer any questions, he acts like he’s angry so that i back down. This can’t be a guy who loves me, but i continue to do this. Your words harsh ,but so true. GAME OVER!

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  11. Michelle

    I have been with CP for 4 years off and on. I have had my heart broken many many times when he has broken up with me over en email. We get along great and then Whamo!!!! This has happened sooooo Many times I have lost count. Yes, staying away and making no contact makes him contact me more. It’s a visious cycle that only I can break. I even moved 146 miles from him and there is not a day or night that goes by that I don’t think of him. whoever said you can close the door but keeping it locked is another thing, so true. This man has told me he can’t move on without me, that he has tried to be other people and can’t, he has told me he loves me, however, within a day he has also changed his mind. My family is fustrated with me and I am with myself. We are 51 and life is too short. I decided not to keep my eggs all in one basket but it is very difficult especially at this age. Lets face it there are fish out there but limited. I think this person will neer commit to anyone so i am not taking it personal anymore and am moving on.

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  12. Paras

    I was soo much cooked up………… in my life but after reading this article….. i fell relax. speciallly the line… the let eggs fryyy not let them rotten grtttttttttttttt……………..

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  13. Kim

    I think guys can be werid when it comes to men telling laidies they like us or thier falling in love its strange. Guys shouldn’t be afraid it should be women cause men are to be stronger then us women.

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  14. Lisa

    Lori,

    Some great commentary. As the old guy said, “life is not always fair. It can be down right mean!” “But”, he added, “It’s what you make it!”

    We women do ourselves a great disservice when we think to force the 3-yr-old to pilot the 747. That is not to denigrate men, just to recognize some maturity levels do not correspond to physical age.

    Some one said, a psychic “told me that no matter how many times this man threw his hook in the water(so to speak, lol) he would never catch anything. You have been so right about that. He is still alone. And you too told me that he would be back in my life.”

    Uh, yeah — he comes back b/c he’s a loser! What you’ve won is a loser. I reflect upon my own experience here. We mustn’t set the bar too low. Sure, we can keep the catfish, but maybe we’d like a nice Sailfish? 🙂

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  15. Heffinc

    I have been talking with Lori for a few months now about my CP. It is so true. I care about him deeply & I do know he feels the same about me. Unfortunately he has was betrayed in the worst way by a his former wife and now every other women that comes into his life pays the price so to speak. I am learning to “detach” myself from him emotionally. It is not easy!! by any means. I still look forward to his good morning text EVERYDAY! it’s funny that when I do ignore him he starts texting me like crazy! Then I just hop right back on the merry go round to now where. I am learning that I DO DESERVE BETTER! that is alot of my problem with him. He came into my life when I was at the bottom, no self esteem no nothing and made me feel like the most special person in the world. Once I made the “mistake” of telling him how I felt-BLAMO!! it was pretty much all over. So I do my best everyday to just “get over it”. I remind myself constantly that there will never be anything more then just very very good friends. I have/am learning to keep my “options” open. I have met some really wonderful people and who knows what will come along. Yesterday I actually asked a man who called my office for directions, out to lunch today!! One step at a time, I’m getting there. I think whats really making it happen is that whether something “happens” we will always be friends. Thank you all for your help and inspiration I have gotten from reading your blogs! God Bless and yes! I agree that prayer helps!! Asking for clarity, truth and the path to be on!!

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  16. kathy

    I know that this is very true! I tell myself everyday, usually have to remind myself throughout the day.
    One day, the pain will ease and the hole will fill. In the meantime, I work very hard to focus on the many blessings I have.
    I’m hopeful that I have learned the lesson(s) that I was meant to learn, allowing me to have the healthy and happy relationship I would love to have in my life.
    Thank you for the blog.

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  17. browneyes

    This discussion about “CP’s” hits home with me for sure, just as it does Kathy. I agree with Kathy that when you’re the one that has your heart tied up it is not so easy to just let go. I am trying so hard and am living my life and dating but the man that I loved so much is still in my heart and mind everyday. He pushes me away farther and farther, sometimes contacting me then weeks without any contact at all. But the psychics here tell me that we will have another chance at being together but also stress the freewill factor. Then there are other psychics that say forget it. Still leaves me in confusion but the majority say its gonna work out. I also agree with Lori about not being able to lose something you never had, that is the way I am feeling now. I never had him to begin with even tho I saw the love in his eyes he had for me.
    Well, had to break from writing this to take a call from Cali. Psychics, lol. More encouragement that this is gonna work out and that he is on his way back, but in his time and how things are gonna turn around for him and make him realize mistakes he has been making. In the meantime, I am dating a wonderful man as of last week. But assurance from Jacyeline (misspelled that horribly, sorry) that this new man would not be hurt if I choose to take this man back. That has been a real fear for me that I will hurt someone as I have been hurt. I cant do that to anyone, and is one reason that I didnt date for so long or get involved with anyone. But the discussions here help so much and I wish Kathy all the luck in the world and hope everything works out for her and anyone else going through this kind of heartache.
    And to Lori, you read for me some months ago and told me that no matter how many times this man threw his hook in the water(so to speak, lol) he would never catch anything. You have been so right about that. He is still alone. And you too told me that he would be back in my life.
    Thanks to all of you here and have a very happy holiday. Hugs to all.

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  18. Abigail Ext 9570

    Beautifully put Lori! When life hands you lemons make lemonaide.
    Blessings &
    Happy Sunday
    Abigail

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  19. Miss Krystal ext. 9192

    Hi Lori- I appreciate your remarks.
    That is wonderful about your blessings. I definitely can relate to the “snowflakes.”
    I really like that. Good visual.
    I do believe what comes around goes around &
    Treat others the way you would like to be treated. Miracles are a supernatural thing.
    It comforts a lot of people to know and read that miracles and angels really do exist. They are just surprises, wonderful surprises. I wish everyone in this blog would get to meet an angel, and have a mircale(or another one). (even meeting an angel is a miracle) Blessings to all & sending lots of good vibrations, miss krystal

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  20. kathy

    I really think that there are many good points being made. It is a really touchy subject. So easy to move on if you are not the one with your heart tied up. I don’t think anyone would make an intentional decision to feel the pain that goes along with being involved with a CP. If he/she is a true CP. Is it possible that someone has really been hurt so badly that healing is a hard thing to do? Should we give up on them if it’s felt they are worth it? Or are they, who knows and how do you really know when you are so emotionally involved? Reality from wishes, who knows?
    Speaking from personal experience, I am someone that is not a child and have had relationships in the past. However, this “CP” I’m involved with is definitely different from any other experience I have had in the past. From the first meeting, very different. All emotion involved, very different. Knowing there is a real desire to move to the next level, I can see it in his eyes, but being so afraid to take that next step is very sad. I can’t help but feel sad for him, and for me. It’s a shame.
    You may all read this and say, “poor girl” so disillusioned. It is very possible that I am. I am making every effort to keep busy with friends, meet new people and do all the right things associated with moving on. I don’t want anyone to read this blog and feel bad because they truly love and want to hold on to a “CP”. Feeling the hole within is not anything that anyone would decide that they “want” to do, sometimes it’s just the way it is. When the time comes the heart will let it go. That’s my belief.
    Thank you to those that said, sometimes keeping the faith is worth it in the end. I don’t know that I am one that will be able to hold on for much longer than I have, but I definitely understand those that do. I don’t believe it is something that you are able to turn off in the morning because you feel it is time. I think alot of soul searching and prayer is the answer.
    I appreciate the input from everyone. I am not one that calls CA Physics to hear what I want to hear. I want the cold hard facts. I think much of what I heard was just that, but I also know that I felt a bit of the sting. I’m not sure that some of it could be spoken so matter of fact if their life was in the midst of the turmoil. I feel for everyone going through the heart ache.
    Thanks again for the input!

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  21. Miss Krystal ext. 9192

    I am not sure. I think prayer and wishes are something individual. That will never change. Miracles can happen.
    I think there are a lot of points you make that are helpful. I am sure there are a lot of people who will never have their prayers answered on something like this. However, I do know a lot of people who have had prayers, meditation, affirmations and, even throwing a penny in a pond and making a wish as it comes true. I think a lot of CP will never come through, but sometimes miracles do happen. Thanks, Miss Krystal

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  22. Kim Taylor

    Lori,
    I love how you tell it like it is! It is certainly hard to hear when you are the one with the broken heart, but if you can channel your sadness into improving yourself – you then have a better chance of attracting a real partner who will be thrilled to spend their life with you!
    Your insight rocks!
    Kim

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  23. Miss Krystal ext. 9192

    Well, thanks, Gina Rose! And you are so right. I have seen a lot of things turn around. Both ways.
    Even in my parents marriage, I have seen the tables turn from time to time.
    I think forgiveness is the key. My 99 year old grandma always says, “never go to bed angry, and do not rehash. Do not tell people they need to say they are sorry.” I see some of her points. It is kind of sort of silly, almost like kindergarten, to tell someone they need to say they are sorry to you. I see my grandmother’s point, who was married for 72 years and is now a widow for nine years.
    Being “petty” with people who have the commitment problems will only justify their insecurities. I think in a good relationship, we can tell how we feel, but we want to pick our battles, wisely. When someone is always complaining, it is taking the relationship down. I think we have to realize what is petty and what is important.
    I talk to people with commitment issues, their reactions run the gamut.
    I have seen some people work past their commitment issues and then, I have seen people who were committed for years throw in the towel. Thanks, Miss Krystal

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  24. Miss Krystal ext. 9192

    Gina Rose, Lori, this is all so interesting.
    Thinking about what the both of you have said, is very thought provoking.
    Gina Rose, what do you recommend for people to say, when they ask the question you just raised, and the person responds, with, “I don’t know.”
    And, if they don’t ask the same question back at you, that may speak volumes, as well. hmmmmm
    Sometimes we just need things to “sit” for a while. It’s never good to be in a hurry with anything, if you can help it. But, yes, eventually, it’s a good idea to ask that specific question. Folks, life is so short. Sometimes, I think back, to that last scene in Gone with The wind, when Scarlet said, “I am going to think about it tomorrow, after all, tomorrow is another day.” I think that was one of the greatest lines in motion picture history.
    Cheers,
    Miss Krystal

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  25. Gina Rose ext.9500

    Good advice Lori,
    ……Here are just a couple of questions to ask your significant other ….
    What do you think a good relationship consists of ????
    Where do you see yourself 2,3, 5 , or even ten years down the road ???
    Blessed Be )O(…Gina Rose ext.9500

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  26. Miss Krystal ext. 9192

    what is it with psychics and chocolate?
    I bought two bags of M&M’s last night.
    The older I get, the more chocolate I want. Keep the faith!
    Cheers, Miss Krystal

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  27. browneyes

    Good morning everyone. You all probably get so tired of my loooonnnnnggg posts, lol. But this latest discussion just hits home with me. To Kathy, Miss Krystal, Gina, and anyone else that commented that doesnt come to mind just now, this thing about letting go and moving on or staying stuck in the hope that someone will wake up and come back. I think all the readings that I have received in the past 8 months were telling me to let go but I just couldnt. I thought if I let go it meant that he was really gone. I finally realized that even if I didnt let go he may be really gone and I was the one that was sitting here miserable while he is out there doing what he wants.
    Just over a month ago, Jesse read for me for almost 30 minutes. We connected instantly. I will never forget what she said when I asked if he loved me. She said “Girl, Ray Charles can see that this man loves you”. LOL. I love the way she talks. She also said that over the next two months I would be going through changes within myself and she thought I just may change my mind about that “scoundrel”. I dont think it is because she said what she did but I have noticed change in me. My eyes opened. I started feeling calmer. I am sleeping better. Several of you ladies here told me I would meet someone around my birthday that I would really like. Well, I did. This new man is taking my mind off the previous man. He is very down to earth and has different qualities than the other. My only concern(not fear) now is that if the previous man returns, I dont know at this point if I would choose him or the new man. This would be another prediction coming to fruition, me having a decision to make. I absolutely dont want to hurt this current interest, he is just too sweet to be done wrong. I guess no matter what we do, there are always things to consider and the chance that someone will be hurt.
    So to Kathy, my advice to you is to keep your options open, get out there and have a great time cause you dont get a second chance at any day that you let get away from you wallowing in the sorrow that someone put you through. If he doesnt see what a wonderful person you are, then he is the loser and you deserve better just as I do. I am so glad I have you ladies to talk to here. And I am also glad I can give everyone feedback on just how great they are at CP and how much they have helped me.

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  28. Gina Rose ext.9500Gina Rose ext.9500

    Hi Miss Krystal,
    I agree…. I’ve seen the same thing on my end for the last 40 plus years,…people are all different.
    I’ve seen die-hard players,grow tired of that lifestyle, and all of a sudden get the urge to settle down and commit.
    People change.
    On the other hand, I’ve seen very loyal, stable, people just up and leave on a quest for freedom and new experiences….hence your ” middle age crisis “.
    Every client is unique and should be treated as suc. Every client has a different Karmic path before them to travel and different life lessons to learn.
    You, miss Krystal, make some very good points… and I think you are a very grounded and gifted psychic….
    Blessed Be )O(…Gina Rose ext.9500

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  29. Gina Rose ext.9500Gina Rose

    This is a classroom, we are ALL down here to learn and grow from our mistakes, and we ALL will make mistakes.
    The trick is not to keep making the SAME mistakes.That is the mark of true Karmic growth.
    Look inside of yourself and ask…What have I learned about MYSELF from this experience?????.What is MY lesson in all of this ????
    Take what you have learned from THIS experience, retain that knowledge, stay aware of it,and you will not so easily repeat that pattern the next time around.
    If you can do that….there will not a be
    another ” rodeo “.
    Blessed Be )O( Gina Rose ext.9500

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  30. Abigail Ext 9570

    Kathy,
    It is never over until you say to yourself it’s over. Miss Krystal pointed out how some will wait it out.
    For the power to hold on in spite of everything, to endure, is the quality of a winner. Know that your greatest victory is not in never failing, but in rising up again like the Phoenix every time you fail.
    With constant and determined effort is what will eventually break down all resistance of all the barriers before you. Persistence means taking pains to overcome every obstacle,and do all that’s necessary to reach your desired goal.All great achievements require time.
    Endurance is the crowning quality of success and only you can say with-in your own heart whether or not its over.
    The rodeo stops when you are on the same page. Sometimes all it takes is time and space for things to be right and headed in the right direction. Now that does not mean to stop living your life. Be open to what the universe has to bring you and it just may be what you want!
    Blessings,
    Abigail

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  31. kathy

    Hi, Abigail!
    That is the part that interests or concerns me. I think I have mentioned before I believe very strongly that this connection with the gentleman I speak of is a Karmic thing. Not our first rodeo.
    I was just asking my girlfriend today, “how do you know when the cycle is broken”? How do you know that you got it right and you won’t be doing this in another “rodeo”? I’m not sure, does anyone really know?

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  32. misskrystalMiss Krystal

    I really enjoyed this post. I have seen people quit and are sick of waiting, and I have also seen people hang in there. Interestingly enough, I had a client who waited years for an engagement ring. She did get it.
    She is married now. I think it all depends on the individual.
    I don’t think once a phobe always a phobe. Thanks,
    Miss Krystal

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  33. kathy

    Browneyes, I am so happy for you! I know exactly how you have been feeling. I could feel it in reading your posts over the past week or so. I have felt the exact same way for so long now.
    Time will tell if I will meet someone that can change my mind about “Mr. Run Away” being “The one”. I am hopeful and confident that it will happen.
    It has been my experience with the gentleman I speak of that just as I am letting go, “poof” there he is. Be prepared because you know how that “Lion” can be.
    I am sure you will do what is best for YOU!! It’s awesome that you are wearing a smile!
    Enjoy!!

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  34. Abigail Ext 9570

    Exactly correct Maryanne. As a professionl hypnotist also there are actually stages that people miss while growing up and they keep repeating that stage until they get it. Kind of like Karma. You know the old saying “keep doing what you’ve always done you’re always going to get what you always got”
    You are a wonderful loving soul.
    Many Blessings.
    Abigail

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  35. browneyes

    This post is perfect. I too was involved last year with a man that was completely upfront about his fear of commitment. But I thought my love for him would bring him around. Guess what? It didnt. Even though many of the psychics here tell me he will be back in my life, they also told me it would be my decision if I take him back. Was also told to keep my options open. I dated other men but like Kathy, mu heart wasnt in it. The other night I met a man in person that I had been friends with online for over a year. We only talked now and then but in the last several weeks it seemed we had “run into” each other online more often. We exchanged phone numbers and talked a few times on the phone as well as online. He is a trucker and spends lots of time on the road. Suddenly he got a run to my hometown, just out of the blue. We met and immediately hit it off. This doesnt always happen when you meet in person. He said it was fate that we got this opportunity to meet and we are talking of spending as much time together as possible. He is ready for a relationship and I now see the mistakes I made with the previous man. This new man and I agree to take things slowly and just see where it goes. He is accepting of all the things that the previous man had so much problem with. I am wondering now if the predictions of the first man returning and fighting for me wont just come to fruition as the way it looks now, he just may have some competition on his hands. I am playing this one right and not expecting anything as yet, but I am hopeful and very happy that I have met this new man. There are many lessons to be learned in this life and I have finally started learning them and now have a big smile on my face instead of the frown that has been there for so long. To all the women that have found themselves in my position of loving an emotionally unavailable man, put yourself first girls and DO keep your options open. There is a man out there that will love you as you love them. Never put yourself on the shelf waiting for someone to change. You will wasting precious time. I wish everyone a wonderful day.

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  36. Abigail Ext 9570

    Morgan you are to cute I often tell some of my ladies that sometimes its good to act & date like a man. Change things up a bit. LOL No phobe more like a free spirit
    Blessings
    Abigail

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  37. Abigail Ext 9570

    Kathy remember you are like fine wine you’re getting better! At least I am LOL
    Blessings
    Cyber Hugs
    Abigail

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  38. Psychic Maryanne Ext. 9146

    Kathy,
    It is possible to become emotionally stunted, regardless of age, due to emotional pain in one’s past. The good news is, each and every one of us can overcome that and the vast majority of people we read for really do want to overcome it.
    Your postings reflect you are doing marvelous growth on your own-congratulations!

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  39. Abigail Ext 9570

    Thank you Jen its not the best but most recent my son and I were playing around in Jan with some new pics and that was one of them.

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  40. kathy

    So true! So much reflecting my head hurts – just kidding! Determined to get it right next time around!
    You’re great, thanks!
    P.S. For the first time and I’m pretty old, haha, I loved unconditionally and was completely myself. Regardless of the outcome with this one, I’ll do it again until I get it right!

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  41. kathy

    Love that expression and it is very true! Desperation being the kiss of death. Too funny!
    One thing that I have learned in my “off” times during this dance that we do is, “I would much prefer to be alone than to wish I was”. Went through that in a marriage. No thanks to doing that again!
    I live in a very strange place in Texas, big city but a small town in most regards. The pickings are slim, tough city for being single. Having moved from Houston this is a huge adjustment. I have met many men, during the internet dating phase of my “single” days and just meeting friends of friends. I am much happier going home to read a book vs going on a date with someone that I just don’t click with. I wonder if that’s wrong? Should you go on every date that you are asked out on? I think my big turn off is the battle at the door. Ugh, go home and please do not try to kiss me – LOL!
    Hopefully, my vision is still clouded and I will come around and be more up for the challenge! Here’s hoping!
    Thanks Morgan! I’ve actually spoken to you and really enjoyed our reading. You are very talented…..

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  42. Abigail Ext 9570

    Kathy,
    Its retrograde we are all reflecting this hit home for you to reflect at this time.
    Blessings
    Abigail

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  43. Gina Rose ext.9500

    LOL…..” desperation is the stink of death “…..
    I like that.
    In most cases, yes, but not all.
    I agree too about dating for fun……too many are in a blind rush for the alter.
    I DO believe most women ” give their POWER away ” in dating and relationships the minute they step towards a man.
    Morgan, I love the way you phrase things….You must be a real ” hoot ” in person….
    …my humor is very dry, so I’ve been told.
    Anyway….I have to go mow some brush (I live up in mountain area , way out in the sticks)….the dog , and cat don’t look too motivated to do the chores, so it’s up to me.
    Blessed Be…)O(…Gina Rose ext.9500

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  44. Morgan ext. 5117

    I am really touched ladies. Thank you so much for your encouraging words. I actually lived that nightmare before:)) Desperation is the stink of death for relationships.
    I’ve been flying solo for many years now and am completely content with this state of consciousness. Don’t get me wrong…. I date:)) And I have to admit I am dating some pretty incredible men and yes… more than one. Dating does not mean intimacy, it means dating and having fun. I may have even met the right one, but until he is sure and we speak of “exclusive commitment” I will continue to date others.
    Look at it like this….. Nobody likes to eat at an empty restaurant as they are more than likely to gravitate towards the establishment where the food is better.
    :))
    Morgan

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  45. kathy

    OUCH! Sometimes reality really bites – LOL! I’ve been doing the “dance” for 3.5 yrs with someone who I have always thought a wonderful man! A bit trickier for me in the way I actually received a ring, engagement, BUT then the cold feet. He never claims to be “emotionally available” but at some point we have to wake up. I think I would have rather had the facts, ie someone who says upfront that commitment is just not his thing. I think he means all the promises for the future when he says them, but then can’t seem to wrap his head around it. Then…… he runs!I have mentioned this to other CP psychics, he is much to old to behave in this way. I guess age in years on the earth is not the important thing, it is the emotional maturity that matters. How do some get so emotionally stunted in their growth?
    I’ve tried many times to date (even have, a few times) but my heart isn’t in it. I do continue to try to force myself and hope that one day I will find what I had with him, but this time the man will be emotionally mature.
    I would be lying if I said I didn’t hope he would get his act together because I certainly do, but I am making a conscience effort to go out with friends and meet new people. Mr. Right might show up yet?!
    Thank you for the blog. It comes on the day I have told myself “get on with it already” and wouldn’t you know this article appears.
    Thanks again! It’s great!

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  46. Abigail Ext 9570

    Morgan great post & interactions on this subject for some reason women get caught up in will he select us and its the reverse we select them. I agree with Gina about the giving your power away. Lori with to many woman are afraid to ask a man anything for fear of losing him. By doing that you are setting yourself up for major let downs. Being who we are loving unconditionally is key for any relationship if there is to have a future. Morgan is dating like a man Ha! You go girl..
    Blessings
    Abigail

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  47. Psychic Maryanne Ext. 9146

    Morgan,
    Excellent article! I couldn’t agree more. It’s human nature for us to focus on what (or who) we want, but that focus won’t make someone want to commit to us. I do believe it makes us actually less attractive to the person we want to commit to our relationship.

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  48. Gina Rose

    Hi Morgan, great posting….I liked the way you made your point with the breaking & frying of the eggs….great way to put it .
    Blessed Be )O(…Gina Rose ext.9500
    I posted earlier to this but it didn’t show up….lets see if it works now.

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