You’re dating an amazing individual, somebody you’d really like to get to know better. Every date this person smells and looks absolutely “smokin” right down to his/her minty sweet breath – and all is good with the world. Every date just continues to get better and better but… that old exclusivity clause somehow remains elusive. Regardless, you decide to take yourself off the market anyway to see where things might go with this person. Forgetting the key phrase “to see where things might go” with further emphasis on the word “might.”
There is nothing like having a great connection with the right person, but how do you really know if somebody is the right person after only a few dates? OK so this person has a million and one great qualities, that’s absolutely fantastic. But he/she still will not commit to anything permanent with you or anybody for that matter. He/she just isn’t ready to take that big step. You however, have placed all your eggs in one basket.
Visualize if you will, a year or two down the road and he/she is still telling you…”you’re a great person, but I’m just not ready for a solid commitment.” At the very least, it is heartbreaking to devote so much time to ONLY this individual who remains ever the “commitment phobe.” I want you to think about all those expected phone calls that never came. Those weekends home alone while he/she is out doing whatever. The lonely holidays etc.
Alright … you love him/her. Understandable with all those amazing qualities, but it seems you’ve fallen in love with the emotionally bankrupt and still you continue to place even more eggs in your little basket of love. Relax… there is a cure for this strange phenomenon. Keep those dating options open, break those eggs, fry them up, scramble them, but don’t keep them all in the same basket, diversify. After all they turn rotten if not cooked. Get out and meet other people, you are, still a free agent and therefore can date others. Chances are you can meet many other great people and maybe even find the one great individual who will commit – who’s to say it’s not him/her? But you’ll never know what good things can happen if you keep all your eggs in one basket.