Keep the Goods Unspoiled for the Big Day!
Many bachelor parties can be a set-up for temptation, and it’s up to the integrity of the man and his respect for the relationship to maintain fidelity. While the strength of your relationship determines your dedication to each other, your actions everyday either support your partnership or undermine it. However, when it comes to bachelor parties, there are a few things to keep in mind before you send him off into the wild.
Allow Him Nights Out With the Boys When He Needs Them
A good rule of thumb: respect Guys’ Night Out as much as those coveted Ladies’ Nights. Successful relationships require a balance, and having friendships outside of the partnership is a healthy way to support individual interests. Consistently giving him his testosterone-laden space will make him less likely to act out in other ways, perhaps at that upcoming bachelor party. No one wants to feel trapped or controlled, and even if he loves you, when temptation is placed in his path, his feelings of confinement could take a nasty turn that you both will deeply regret.
No Nagging Before the Event
Trust is everything in a relationship. If you spend the entire week before the party nagging him or interrogating him about the upcoming event, he is likely to resent your mistrust along with your attempts to control his behavior. Show him that you have confidence in him and trust in the relationship by supporting the celebration instead of acting like the neurotic girlfriend.
Talk Things Over
If you feel the need to talk about the upcoming party, keep it honest, short and simple. Express the fact that while you may be uncomfortable with strippers being present at the event, that you are confident in the strength of your relationship. If you are determined to set ‘ground rules’ regarding acceptable behavior, make sure to do so openly and lovingly, inspiring his pride in your committed relationship instead of resentment.
Give Him a Great Send-Off
On a less serious note, people in satisfying relationships tend to be less tempted to cheat. Knowing the bachelor party environment to be a potentially tempting environment, sending him off as a satisfied and happy mate is a much better tactic than nagging, arguing and alienating him. The relationship should be strong enough to withstand these temptation-filled events sans cheating, so you might want to make sure you have sated his appetite before the next feast. And it goes without saying that he would be smart indeed to follow all of these guidelines before your next bachelorette soiree!