There are times when our relationships may have become so fragile, that they need encouragement much more than they do criticism. I truly believe that these are the moments when a lie can actually save your relationship.
Can We Handle the Truth?
There is an old saying: to be a good liar, you have to have a terrific memory to remember all the lies you told, and who you told them to. For the most part, I agree with this 100 percent, and believe that you should always try to be honest, no matter how unpleasant it may be. However (I bet you knew that was coming), there are moments when the connection to our partner may not be strong enough to handle the consequence of truth.
Your relationship may be rocky, and you may need to confess your feelings to someone. However, by telling a curious member of your immediate family your problems, you could inadvertently trigger negative feelings towards your partner. When you choose to confess negative thoughts about someone, it affects the people you tell. While it may be how you feel at the moment, several days later, you might regret what you said. You don’t want to hold these feelings inside, but just be very careful with whom you share them with. A hurtful lie is often meant to offend others. A good lie can be conveyed to defend those we love, even when we may not be sure they’re deserving of our grace. Get personalized advice, contact a psychic today!
“I forgive you”
Some battles aren’t worth fighting, and if you can bring yourself to forgive and forget, you’ll help your relationship get back on track sooner. Forgiveness is rarely found within the words, but discovered after it has already been given, and you realize your partner was truly deserving of it.
“Whatever it is that is causing you stress, most likely it is there to teach you a lesson. Sometimes the truth stings a bit.” – Psychic William ext. 5131
“We’re going to make it through this”
When you’re unsure about an outcome, sometimes it’s better to push yourself over to the side of the glass is half full, rather than pouring out what little hope you have left by admitting reluctance. Statistically speaking, about one out of every three marriages will fail. Studies show that somewhere around 80 percent of those failures could have been turned around, had those couples given each other enough time and attention to find a solution (or forgiveness). Your odds of success increase when you allow your optimism to precede your doubts. Sometimes you must embellish the truth before you can actually believe in an alternative ending to your love story.
A lot of problems in relationships could be avoided if we just gave ourselves enough time to think them through. It’s human nature to experience a buildup of emotions that can explode into a fury of words that may feel justified then, but regretful later. Don’t hold your feelings in, but do give yourself enough time to think them through before deciding to open a can of worms. Feelings can be misleading when you shoot from the hip.
“Not everything about being human is easy or even nice. We are made to endure, and sometimes even be the cause of, difficulty and hardship.” – Psychic Reed ext. 5105
“You’re doing great”
Sometimes delusional confidence can bring out the best in ourselves and other people. What if we were to tell the complete truth, and nothing but the truth all the time? Many of us might lose the confidence to reach our aspirations. Sometimes we need a little undue praise to push us to do what’s necessary to find our way to deserving it. A hurtful lie is about deceiving others. A good lie is about perceiving the potential in our partner, and giving them the encouragement they need to fulfill it. Occasionally, constructive criticism may be more useful than praise. In these cases, it will be beneficial to precede every critique with a sincere compliment.
It may be frightening to think that statistics show the earlier our children learn to lie, the better their chances are at being successful in their career and relationships. Another way to look at this is that we construct our truth every day by how we choose to take in information, and perceive our experiences. We also choose how we are perceived by others by what we decide to share with them. It isn’t always about telling the truth (as you see it), but acting on good faith that your grace will reward others with the insight of what they’re capable of. In this way, a good lie can be self-fulfilling. Remember, however, that “(even) good lies need a leavening of truth to make them palatable” (William McIlvanney).
Exclusive offer: New customers can speak to a psychic for ONLY $1 per minute. Select your psychic advisor here.
Is your relationship strong enough to handle the truth?
Talk to a love psychic and find out. Call 1.800.573.4830
or choose your psychic now.