Cheating is a popular topic… but what if you’re the one who’s doing the deed outside your relationship – or at least the one who’s thinking about it? Here are three relationship issues that can – and will – put you in danger of going elsewhere for attention if you don’t do something to stop them!
Feeling ignored by your partner? Maybe they’re extra busy at work, dealing with a personal crisis, or even seriously ill. Whatever the cause, it’s time to pay some attention to your feelings (and express them, even if it’s to a counselor). Inattention has the (often unintentional) side effect of making people feel invisible, unattractive or insecure – and the result? You go seeking a different kind of attention (emotional or sexual) elsewhere!
If you’ve been cheated on – or otherwise mistreated – it’s not uncommon to feel you’re justified in giving your partner a dose of their own medicine. However, while you can tell yourself that this just levels the playing field, what it really does is change the game – and not for the better. Playing dirty never has a truly happy ending. In fact, you’re usually thrown out of the game, and your bad choices come back to haunt you (in later relationships)! Don’t compound problems that already need working out, unless you’re prepared to pay the price!
A little fantasy is fine (particularly when it involves people outside your realm of possibility), but when you find yourself daydreaming about your friend’s new boyfriend or the cute girl in accounting (namely how the sheets may be greener… or at least a whole lot more fresh in their bed), you’re stepping into murky territory. Instead of focusing on these objects of projection (which is exactly what they are at this stage – your little two dimensional fantasy of a perfect partner – sex or relationship!), focus on how you can spice up your relationship – before it’s too late for you to successfully save it!
What do you think – what are the best ways to keep your mind from wandering to other people?