Date for a Decade to Avoid Divorce

A recent USA Today article reported that the current trend among young adults is to date for up to a decade before marrying. The article sites Prince William and Kate Middleton, who are planned to become engaged soon, but who have been courting for over nine years. On a similar note, Crown Princess Victoria of Sweden just married her boyfriend of eight years (she’s 32). But the trend isn’t limited to royalty – it’s how the current generation is doing things.

Reasons for delaying marriage include more familiarity between the couple, the chance to work out the couple’s problems and challenges before committing, and the fact that sex before marriage is now permissible in our society whereas it wasn’t before, meaning there is less pressure to rush into early marriage. Money, and an insecure economy, also play a large part in delaying marriage.

Generally though, it’s likely that since this generation’s parents had the highest divorce rate in history, and since many of the children of this generation are children of divorce, they simply – and wisely – don’t want to repeat the mistakes of their parents.

Young Americans are actually becoming more like young Europeans in this respect: many European couples wait until their 30s before marrying, many of them living together for long periods of time before tying the knot.

What do you think – are young people being overly cautious? Or is this just good common sense?

12 thoughts on “Date for a Decade to Avoid Divorce

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  9. donna

    I have to agree with Carmen, it is not a guarantee the realtionship will last. It only takes one person, to destroy a marriage.

    I knew my husband for 3 years before I would date him, then married him the following year. We knew each other very well. He changed, he decided he wanted to sew his wild oats, and thought I was so smitten with him, I would just accept his poor behavior. So, here I am 20+ years later and in a divorce. The only way for a marriage to succeed is both people must be together in their thinking and willing to work on building a realtionship. Yes, even 20 years later, the work never stops. Most people these days want their cake and icing too. Just my 2 cents on this matter.

  10. Jacqueline

    I think that our younger generation is trying to do every thing to avoid getting divorced, I have to say I met my husband and married him within 4 months, I see myself getting old with this man.

    Carmen you don’t look a day over 30…..

    Blessings and Big Hugs!
    Jacqueline x9472

  11. Carmen Hexe

    Actually, I do not believe that there is a blueprint for a lasting marriage. I have known couples who’ve dated for years before they got married and then got divorced within less than a year.

    Yes, in Germany it is quite common to live together and be together for many years before you tie the knot. Interestingly enough, none of my friends back home are divorced. BUT, they started dating when they were 15 or 16 and hence, don’t even know better.

    I, on the other hand, am doing it the opposite, as usual 🙂 I got married to my husband after 2 months, and he proposed after 3 weeks. What can I say, he’s my soul-mate. And, I was 39 when I made this commitment. I think I know myself better now than I did when I was in my 20s or even early 30s.

  12. Gina Rose ext.9500Gina Rose ext.9500

    I feel that long courtships are definitely the way to go……..

    …it would cut the divorce rate easily in half, if couples were to date even 5 years before marrying.

    But, sadly, we live in a disposable society of instant gratification: if you want it, take it….tired of it?…throw it away. This attitude is very destructive in the long term scheme of a person’s life, even stunting Karmic growth in some cases.

    Blessed Be )O(
    Gina Rose ext.9500


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