A recent USA Today article reported that the current trend among young adults is to date for up to a decade before marrying. The article sites Prince William and Kate Middleton, who are planned to become engaged soon, but who have been courting for over nine years. On a similar note, Crown Princess Victoria of Sweden just married her boyfriend of eight years (she’s 32). But the trend isn’t limited to royalty – it’s how the current generation is doing things.
Reasons for delaying marriage include more familiarity between the couple, the chance to work out the couple’s problems and challenges before committing, and the fact that sex before marriage is now permissible in our society whereas it wasn’t before, meaning there is less pressure to rush into early marriage. Money, and an insecure economy, also play a large part in delaying marriage.
Generally though, it’s likely that since this generation’s parents had the highest divorce rate in history, and since many of the children of this generation are children of divorce, they simply – and wisely – don’t want to repeat the mistakes of their parents.
Young Americans are actually becoming more like young Europeans in this respect: many European couples wait until their 30s before marrying, many of them living together for long periods of time before tying the knot.
What do you think – are young people being overly cautious? Or is this just good common sense?