Do you ever wonder what you would say to yourself if you could go back in time? What kind of advice would you give yourself? Please don’t get me wrong, I’m not one of these people who drown in regret and sorrow, but there are a few things I would correct and do better.
1. Follow Your Instinct!
If it looks like a duck and quacks like one, it is a duck! You can’t rescue people, you can’t make them change, and you can’t make them better. You know what a person is about when you meet them—listen! And don’t let your head or heart get in the way, for neither can be trusted.
2. People Do Not Change!
Not for you, not for anyone. People only change if they want to, and most people never will; this is because most people cannot face the pain or do the work that is required in order to become their “higher” self. Most will prefer misery, if it is the alternative to not moving a finger and claiming victimhood.
3. It’s OK to Have High Expectations!
It’s not OK to continuously lower them for others and then start getting resentful about them not doing anything about it!
4. Not Everyone Thinks Feels and Views the World the Way You Do!
This is fine, as long as you don’t attempt to befriend or change the minds of those who are on polar opposite ends of the spectrum.
5. Never Sell Out Your Values!
It is not OK, ever, to compromise on your moral and ethical values for anyone!
6. Get Your Butt Back Into Therapy!
7. You Come First!
You are not a distant second, third or tenth behind anyone. And no, other people’s wants and needs are not always more important than yours, even though they may consistently try to tell you that. Get rid of those who are selfish!
8. You Are Enough, and You Are Worthy!
Remove those who try to convince you otherwise.
9. You Are Not Perfect and You Never Will Be!
The right people will love you unconditionally, imperfections and all.
10. You Make Your Happiness
Life can be amazing, wondrous, joyful and happy, regardless of where you came from and what you may have experienced in your past. You are the creator of your own happiness; and no, it won’t fall in your lap. Work is required and necessary, but the rewards are infinite.
Lastly, I would tell myself to remain truthful to myself, to not sell out, to stand up for myself and to set proper boundaries.
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Awesome and all so important, Carmen!! Learned these the hard way and on a long road to where I am today… so reading this did two wonderful things for me personally. One… it allowed me to say ‘yep, yep’ so true, exactly, etc. 🙂 Two… it’s a Great List to print and keep in my purse, on my desk, etc. to REMIND me … when others question my values, high bar and boundaries. Of course we know ‘those people’ who ‘question’ or ‘ridicule’, do that because they don’t want to even consider that they may be living their life selfishly or without values.
Another Great post, Carmen!!Have a Very Happe Easter weekend to you and everyone at C.P.!!
HUGS & Lots of Blessings to you,
Coreen @ VOS
I really bonded with, “Be true to yourself,” and, “Follow your own instincts.” Things just seem to fall into place better when we just do these two simple things. The other points on here are also positive and I am sure ring true for many people. Thanks, Carmen. Miss Krystal
I Carmen,
I love your articles, you are so evolved, I would love to add…don’t take so long to get it, when something in your life isnt working let it go and move on, don’t stay stuck.
With your first one “follow your instincts”, this is so important, trusting yourself is crucial, your guides will never ever mislead you, as you have said, once we learn to trust our self we become so fluid that we see what is in our best interest quickly, as we trust our self and our guides, they help us more, you become connected with them on a deeper level.
Blessings and Big Hugs!
Jacqueline x9472
Hi Carmen,
Great tips……I especially have always adhered to tip # 5 and tip # 10.
Blessed Be )O(
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