As a Medium, I’ve learned that each person’s individual experience after their passage is very different, and that the way each person passes has a lot to do with their “afterlife” circumstances. Some people pass on, and within hours they’re playing with lights, sending pennies, and appearing in their loved ones dreams, while others never make any contact with the living. I’ve also learned that the actual experience of dying is an extremely euphoric sensation, a release that we never experience anything like until we pass on.
I’ve learned as much from the dead as from the living, even though I’m 46 and didn’t start channeling until I was around 29. Sometimes discarnate souls are almost exactly the same in death as they were in life — and sometimes they’re radically different, regardless of how enlightened or lost they may have been in life. But by far, the most important two things I know, I learned from a famous old man named Dr. Peebles — the spirit most people channel first when we learn. He taught me that old souls, such as myself, are slow learners, and to make a loving allowance for all things to be in their own time and place.
If I could teach anything I know from Spirit to callers it would be that our relatives who’ve passed on aren’t necessarily enlightened by their passage. The best guidance we can receive comes from Spirit Guides, not our loved ones.