Catalina in Fresno writes:
I am almost in my mid 40s, but I’ve had the worst luck in romance and love. I’ve been alone for quite awhile and I am divorced. I am at the point in my life where I want someone special with whom I can trust and be trusted. I’ve been there, done that and I just want to settle down with that special man.
I just need the companionship now. I don’t need a wedding ring. I would be ecstatic just to be with my soulmate and live happily with him. Do you see anything like that ever happening for me or am I just supposed to settle for growing old, alone and lonely. Is there someone in my life now, if not, when will I meet him? Where can I go to meet him?
I know you are frustrated with your love life, but that doesn’t mean you will never have one! Don’t let it get the best of you. Loneliness is like a disease… when you let it take hold of your soul, it defines you and festers into something worse.
Not everyone finds their soulmate, but that does not mean a life of isolation. While I’m not going to say that you will never find yours, I don’t see you crossing paths with him any time soon. I wish I could tell you to show up at a certain place at a certain time, and he’d be there with a sign pinned to his shirt – but it doesn’t work that way. I see you dating a few different men lightly before you find the one who makes your world feel complete.
Dating can be exhausting, but it is sometimes a necessary evil to create the life you want. You may want to look into the dating services in your area. Even though they can be a bit pricey, you will be introduced to available men whom you will find enjoyable. Even though every date doesn’t mean a potential relationship, it does offer companionship and the opportunity to have fun. You need to learn to look at it that way. Once you do, you will be a giant leap closer to finding the relationship that you want.
I hope this helps you.