Dayah in the UK writes:
I’ve been going out with my boyfriend for six months and I’m madly in love with him. The trouble is, we’re from different religions and the only way for us to get married is if he converts to my religion. He’s repeatedly said he’s not going to which makes me wonder if this relationship is worth continuing in the first place. But I’m really attached to him and when I call your psychics, they’ve been telling me that I’ll end up marrying him and having kids. It’s what I’ve always wanted but I don’t see how that’s going to happen given his extreme reluctance to know more about my faith. What should I do, Red?
Hang in there! Things have a way of working themselves out, particularly when we quit pushing so hard to get our own way.
You aren’t the first couple to question what the future has in store, because of religious differences. The attraction and chemistry between the two of you has worked its magic in keeping you together so far, and all you have to do is continue to enjoy this relationship as it is. You fell in love with a man of a different faith. Granted, he isn’t as devout in his spirituality as you are yours, but you knew from the start that there were bound to be challenges – religious differences being one of them.
I have to point something out, though. Just for argument’s sake, you need to think about what you are asking of him. You love him for who he is, and his spiritual beliefs have helped to form and shape him into the man you know. But, you are asking him to change that so you can get what you want (married). It works both ways, Dayah. You may see it as he doesn’t love you enough to do what needs to be done to marry you, but the fact that you won’t even consider leaving your religion in order to build a life with him creates the same concerns for him.
Enjoy your relationship as it is, for what it is. The two of you are still at the beginning stages of the journey. As your love grows, so will his interest in your faith. Don’t try and push him, though. Pressing the issue is more likely to cause harm than bring about the results you desire.
The two of you will be together, regardless of religion or spiritual practices. Sometimes you just have to have faith.