Red Responds: His Numerous Nervous Breakdowns

Renee in Australia writes:

For the past three years, my life has been a merry-go-round to say the least. I am 35 years old and have three beautiful and amazing children ages 3,6 and 7. My 7-year-old was diagnosed with cancer at the age of 4 and is in remission now. The strain of this cost me my marriage, realizing that life is short and I had lived my life for my husband (I was with my husband for 20 years).

I left him in the family home, and have moved 7 times in 18 months on my own with three small children. I am currently not working due to the children’s ages! I have also reconnected with a man after not seeing each other for 8 years who is my true love and soulmate – unfortunately married! We have been having an affair for the past 18 months. It’s not his first affair. He left his wife last August, then had a nervous breakdown, and returned as he needed to be around his kids, which I understood. Over the past 18 months he has had two nervous breakdowns and been in depression clinics, quit two jobs and tried to start his own business (which he is more than capable of!) abused alcohol, went down the suicide path, lost his dad and is about to go through another nervous breakdown. He is 42 years old. I love him with all my heart and soul. Am I just his guardian angel who pulls him through all this or is there light at the end of the tunnel for us? Will we be together? The connection between us is so strong, everyone sees it, feels it and comments on it ! It’s like the rest of the world doesn’t even exist. I am a Taurus born 5/3/72. He is also a Taurus 5/15/65. I hope you can shed some light on my path!

Dear Renee,

There is a light at the end of the tunnel, and each day brings you another step closer to it… and it’s not a train!

Your life is about to come into a more peaceful period. In the course of the next 14 months, you will find a place to once again call home, and stay there. Even though your children are young, and very much need your love and attention, you will fall into an opportunity that will allow you to supplement your finances – without sacrificing the time you spend with your kids. It is either something you can do from home, or somewhere that you can work that provides in-house childcare.

The next several years have you as part Guardian Angel, part lover to your soulmate. Unfortunately, this poor man has a whole lot of issues to work through and get under control before he is at a place in life, or within himself, to make and uphold life-changing decisions. Sometimes, you just have to lead by example, and you seem to do that pretty well.

The connection between the two of you is incredibly strong. I really don’t see that changing. Because of this, your affair will continue to go on. There will be times when it is more off than on, but he always finds his way back to you, and you always greet him with open arms.

Soulmate relationships are often the most misunderstood relationships. Because of that soul connection, there are often large and unusual challenges that have to be faced and overcome in order to get to the good stuff. Your man is very fortunate to have a soulmate that is as strong and tenacious as you are. It is your strength and your love that keeps the two of you together, and your gentle spirit that sees beyond his self-destructive behavior.

Every day that you love him brings you one day closer to having him. While the road is a long one, full of twists and curves, he eventually will allow his marriage to end. Take each day as it comes, and keep looking towards the future. Even though it will take years, you will eventually have your man.

Brightest Blessings!
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