I really need your help. I am an Aries and married over 20 years to a Libran. I had a brief affair with a Taurean and he seemed to be waiting for me to get out of my marriage. I started the process, but now it seems that he found someone else.
Meanwhile, my life is a mess. My children are angry with me for getting a divorce. My husband is buying a home, and we are seeing a therapist.
I don’t feel that I love my husband, I really wanted to be with the other man, and most of my friends think I am crazy. What should I do?
Terry in Tapan
You are doing exactly what you should be doing. Moving forward.
It is a fact that not all marriages last forever. Love sometimes changes and fades.
While everyone around you has an opinion about your choices and actions, the bottom line is this is your life. Your kids are going to be hurt and angry for a while, but they will learn to adjust. They may not like your choices, but they love you. It’s just going to take time.
I don’t see you staying with your husband, nor do I see you with the Taurus. Scary as it may be; there is a whole new life taking shape around you. While it may be challenging at the moment, the dust will settle and peace will prevail.
I want to encourage you to continue therapy with your husband. While it does not look like it will reconcile the marriage, it does help each of you to move on with your own lives. While the paths may be separate, each of you will find happiness once again.
Much like cleaning out a closet, sometimes we must first create a mess before we can put things in order. Think of this time as a process that is allowing you to see what you love, what you need, and what you’ve outgrown.
Best of luck to you.