Hi Red ,
I love reading your column. My question: In the last four years, I have been through a divorce, bad breakup of next relationship, through a myriad of bad online dating experiences, financial hell, job changes (and uncertainties regarding them), and a struggling renter without a lease in a very expensive area of the country.
This is my third birthday/holiday season alone and it’s hard to keep trooping on and being positive. Is this my permanent future/life, or will things turn around for me? Will I find love again, financial stability, career success, and a home to call my own?
Sounds like you’ve been on quite a run!
Nothing ever stays the same, because change is one of the few constants in life. So, no, the past four years are not indicative of the rest of your life.
Naturally, your financial stability is in direct connection with your career success, which you will achieve. However, the success you will have may not be exactly as you have envisioned. What I am seeing for you is steady employment while you undertake some additional study or education that is not only going to change the path you are on, but also your success goals. While you will continue to pursue success in your field, you will find some sort of niche that is personally and professionally rewarding. This change in plans will allow you to be more of an entrepreneur than a payroll employee. The rewards will come, but initially, there is an element of financial risk. When the time comes, trust your intuition. Through hard work and efforts of your own, you will be able to have more house than you expect to call your own.
Looking at your love life, you will be meeting someone new early in 2007. While I cannot see if this is the relationship that will take you to the end of your days, it does present as an emotionally driven union. Passion is the key word. While it is powerful, I’m not going to try and lead you to believe that it will be easy. Every day will be an adventure, and some days you just won’t know what to expect. This relationship will strengthen you, even if it does try your patience a bit. There is much excitement here, both good and bad.
Change does not always come the way would like it to, or in the manner in which we are trying to create. But, it does come. While you have not yet completed a low cycle in your life, you are making progress. There are things you can control, and other things that only manifest in their own time. Take each day one step at a time. It’s going to take some time, but you will walk out from under the shadows of the past.