I have met a man who I thought would be my future husband. Although we have only connected once, we continue to speak and correspond. I have noticed that it is only me who makes the attempts to initiate connections. He constantly makes promises but then cancels at the last minute. I am very much mentally connected to this person but cannot keep waiting for him to come forward and even follow through on any plans. Again this week was the same. We are in different states which adds to the problem, not to mention the complications of his young children. My child is grown. Please help.
On top of this I have been considered for an amazing job opportunity but was questioned about my time in certain areas of my job and I am worried that this job will fall through. I am at a loss here and don’t know what to do. Any suggestions?
Debi F. in Studio City
Right guy, wrong time. There are some serious past-life connections going on here! I think you are really picking up on that, and it is a big reason why you are having problems getting him out of your head.
While there is a very real possibility for you and this man to truly connect, it is not now or the immediate future. It is the distant future; eight or ten years from now. I know that may sound a little disheartening to you, but there is a reason for it. Our current lives often offer us the opportunity to correct mistakes made in our past lives. This is why the two of you met. The problem here is one of timing; the playing field between the two of you is not yet level, and it needs to be in order for things to work out properly.
There is no reason for you to put your life on hold, or actively wait for this guy to get it together enough to be more proactive in this relationship. Again, the timing is off. I do see that the communication between the two of you will start to fade away if you stop initiating contact. He will reach out to you periodically, but there isn’t anything steady or balanced about it. Eventually, you will most likely lose contact with each other. Don’t fear this; it is just the natural course of events. It’s quite okay for you to shift gears, live your life, and look for other opportunities. When the timing is right, this man will be the one who pursues you.
Looking at your career, just have a bit of patience. Things are going to explode in a very good way for you. It is true that you may initially get passed over for the opportunity that you mentioned. I know that stinks to hear, and it looks like you will take it to heart. All I can say is, don’t let yourself get too down about it, because the opportunity comes back to you or is replaced with something better. Either way, come February, you are laughing your way to the bank!