Making a Move to the East

Callie writes:

I am about to make a big transition in my life. I would like to move East to be closer to my children and grandchildren. My husband does not want to move with me. I am receiving (my gut) crossed signals as to what to do. I will have to start over. I am 53 years old. What do you see for me? Thank you kindly.

Dear Callie,

I know that you were hoping to see your question in “Ask Your Spirit Guides,” but somehow it found its way over to me. Seems as if your spirit guides wanted to guide you by coming to me.

Moving East seems like it would be a greatly positive change for you, as you would be happier closer to your family. Even though some aspects of such a change would be a bit scary, it would also be liberating. Starting over often is.

Your husband really doesn’t want to relocate. He likes things his way, and his way is to keep things as they are.

You may want to take an extended vacation East. A couple of months would be great, but even three to five weeks will help you to feel more clear. Think of it as a trial run. So spend time with your family, but also spend time on your own.

I know you feel compelled to make this transition, and ultimately, you will. But as far as permanent relocation goes, I don’t see it happening this year. Next spring, things will start falling into place, as far as things like living arrangements and career. Your husband is likely to huff and puff, until the reality that you are going to do this with or without him becomes clear.

Even though it may sound strange, you don’t have to end your marriage to make this move. Granted, you could if you wanted to, and the potential divorce settlement would help you financially, but it doesn’t look like it’s going to get to that point. While you’re not always sure what you want to do with your husband and marriage, you also aren’t in any hurry to initiate a divorce. As long you don’t initiate legal proceedings, your marriage will remain intact, even while the two of you are separated by distance. Living apart for a bit looks like it would have a negative-turning-positive effect on your relationship. But, how you handle such things is truly up to you.

Continue to listen to your gut. Some of the crossed signals you are getting are not because you don’t know where you are supposed to be heading, but because the time is not yet right. Sometimes it is only when we quit struggling with the “whens” and “hows” that the answers we seek suddenly appear. This seems to be the case with you. When the time comes, you’ll know, and you’ll know what to do. So, while life is leading you to gradually start over, unless you push to make it different, you won’t be forced to do it alone.

Brightest Blessings,

Red