Pessimists and Procrastinators
Everyone has an inner critic, even optimists, but unlike optimists who have learned the art of silencing their inner critic, pessimists keep their inner critics alive by constantly feeding it with negative thoughts and feelings of doubt. And soon the pessimist becomes a procrastinator—putting off their goals until it comes down to the wire.
So, how do you silence your inner critic? Can you really bolster yourself up and put duct tape over that nagging voice that keeps whispering doubt and criticism in your ear?
Good News and Not-So-Good News
In my quest to rid myself of my own inner critic, I was led to advice from everyone from Buddhists to psychologists and even some advice from writers and artists. Ha, it seems I’m not alone in my quest after all. That’s good news.
And now, the not-so-good news. The general consensus is that there is really no way to completely silence your inner critic—at least not immediately, but there is hope.
You can try to minimize the inner critic’s effect on you and then hopefully, over time, that nagging voice is brought down to a whisper that you can easily ignore. I can’t list all my tips here, but I will share the ones that resonated with me the most:
Kill Them With Kindness
Buddhists don’t condone the killing of anything, but they do practice something called “Loving-kindness Meditation” where you generally concentrate on wishing good things to come—starting with yourself and working your way up to someone you hardly know. If you can offer unconditional feelings of love and good will to a stranger, than you can surely do it for yourself, right?
Treat the Inner Critic Like a Stranger
Some psychologists suggest that you act as though the inner critic within is really someone from the outside. How do you respond to a stranger who offers an unwanted opinion? Generally, you tell them to mind their own business. The conversation might go something like this:
“You can’t do that.”
“Why can’t I? Who are you to tell me I can’t?”
“It’s not good enough.”
“Of course it’s good enough. No one asked for your opinion.”
“You’ll never finish on time.”
“I can and will finish this on time, if you would just be quite.”
Basically, you’re taking back your power and making the inner critic’s hold over you irrelevant.
“Know that within your spiritual core you deserve abundance. Stay away from people who say otherwise. Take real action to make your goals happen. If you’re thinking about, but not taking steps in the direction of abundance, you’ll usually end up disappointed.” – William ext. 5131
Ignore the Inner Critic
The artists talk about constantly doubting whether others will like what they have done, but this can really apply to anyone. Some suggest:
• Keep pushing on.
• Don’t stop.
• Concentrate on the task at hand.
• Don’t look back until it feels done.
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The inner critic here is treated like a mosquito buzzing annoyingly in your ear, but instead of stopping what you’re doing to show him the door, you swat him away and hope you get a few good brush strokes in (or words typed) before he comes back. Eventually, he’ll tire of being ignored and he’ll go bug someone else.
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