Negativity can be a serious problem. People who react to their life situation with deep resentment and negativity, and psychically lash out at those around them, can be not only a pain, but also a real threat to happiness and productivity. Yet we all have to deal with them – or are them – at one point or another. It’s important to learn how to deal with negativity and psychic toxins. Here’s a few pointers:
First, see the other person as a mirror. We often find ourselves in experiences that mirror our inner states, and the things going around us can be manifestations of our own karma. In reacting as if you see a reflection of yourself instead of something apart from yourself, you can see clearly and with compassion. It also prevents us from scapegoating others, something which can happen far too easily in any group situation, and which can often occur without us fully realizing it, at very subtle levels.
Next, never see other people as victims or victimizers. Instead, see them as individuals who have come to where they are through their own choices and actions. This honors their innate divinity, and individual responsibility, instead of seeing them as being merely part of a cycle of abuse. You can choose to participate with their behavior, or you can choose not to.
Be patient. If somebody is expressing negativity towards you, first ask yourself if it is a legitimate manifestation of something you are doing that you can take responsibility for and change. If it isn’t, and it is outside of your power to change, then be patient. Refuse to take responsibility for the other person’s negativity, and let them work it out without becoming involved. Protect yourself, but don’t extend yourself into their negativity in order to fix it. Don’t turn it into your fault or your problem. You can change yourself or you can leave the situation, but you can never change another person. This is absolutely key. When we try to fix people, we reinforce the problem. We become involved in their pain, and misery loves company. Instead, see them as equals, neither higher or lower than us, who are responding to life in ways that we can either choose to participate in or not.
Take a break. Go out to nature and enjoy being in balance. Nature can do wonders for repairing our sense of what is actually important and what isn’t. And those negative ions don’t hurt either.
You can also ask your guides (whatever that means to you) or the force of divinity itself to protect you directly. Visualize white light encasing you and protecting you from harmful outside influences.
Finally, when in doubt, respond with love. This is not doormat love – don’t allow people to walk over you – but respect for them as equal beings. When we respond with love, we can prevent spirals of negativity from occurring by responding to attacks with counterattacks.
What are your favorite methods for dealing with negativity and psychic toxins?