Mental & Emotional Health: Is There an Upside to Loneliness?

The Perks of Loneliness

When you’re single, it’s easy to feel lonely. You may long for someone to snuggle up to on the sofa or confide in after a difficult day, and no wonder—we all want to connect. Whether in the immediate wake of a breakup, death or tragedy or even a prolonged period without a relationship, loneliness can be paralyzing.

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But what if being sans someone special is actually a chance to forge the most primal and important connection of all? That connection is the connection with yourself. Life is all about perspective, after all, and loneliness, while tough, also presents a carefully designed opportunity to connect with the deepest parts of yourself. Loneliness is valuable!

The Luxury of Focusing on Yourself

What’s the definition of insanity? It’s doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. If you’re single for a protracted period, or have watched the demise of another relationship, odds are good there are at least a few patterns at play. There are probably a few things you could be doing differently to achieve a different result. That doesn’t mean there’s something fundamentally wrong with you. It just means you have more to learn on the journey of your personal evolution—which is always the case.

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The only thing that makes a lonely period a particularly powerful time for seeing those things in yourself you’d like to change (and changing them) is that you have the luxury of focusing on yourself. Work on yourself until you meet the better version of yourself.

You Get a Clean Slate

In that quest to zero in on where you’ve come from and where you want to go, there’s something major to be said for a clean slate. When you’re by yourself and feeling blue, it’s easy to wallow. Instead of doing that, what if you choose to take stock of the wreckage and find the gold in it? Take the opportunity to see where you want to be and how you’re going to get there—even from here. You’ll lay the groundwork for the future (and the relationship) you want to have, rather than casting your rod at the next thing that comes along and winding up with another impostor.

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Leaping before you look to alleviate loneliness leads right back to this place. Only by getting as close to your highest good as possible will you attract the relationship that will make you happy—because you’ll already be happy yourself.

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21 thoughts on “Mental & Emotional Health: Is There an Upside to Loneliness?

  1. Dottie

    Thank you for your for your words of wisdom. I so agree! It was through loneliness that I found myself. I feel so blessed to finally know and accept myself. I have so much to be thankful for and I discovered gratitude through loneliness.

  2. Beth

    I was divorced for 14 years from age 37 to 51 and I just got remarried a year and a half ago. I never felt lonely because I made a full life for myself with my girlfriends, internet dating and helping others. I did feel alone at times where I felt it was me against the world. I eventually turned to God through Christianity at age 48 and plunged myself into studying the Bible in an effort to get to know God and myself and most of all to gain wisdom which I feel was the end result. Joyce Meyer helped me a lot with her teachings. She has a lot of wisdom whether you are Christian, agnostic or some other religion or just spiritual. I highly recommend her to anyone who feels their life is empty and who wants to find joy again. She is on television daily and her books “Battlefield of the Mind” and “Power Thoughts” are a must read for anyone who is not opposed to Christianity and who wants to get to a healthier mindset. I also think when we commit ourselves to serving others it takes the focus off our own internal emptiness and helps us feel like we have a purpose and we feel more connected to others. If you really want to find a partner commit yourself to becoming the best person you can be in mind, body and soul. Then get on some internet dating sites like since they have a huge database. I have a lot of single girlfriends in their 30’s, 40’s, 50’s and 60’s who think a man is going to magically show up in their lives without them doing anything different. God can do anything, but we each have to do our part and God will do the rest. As this article said…the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. I found the love of my life through Match after being on there for over seven years. My friends say they tried that and didn’t have a good experience. I too had to kiss many frogs over those years I was alone, but the difference between me and my single friends is that I persevered and never gave up. They all gave up after three to six months of internet dating. Some of them refuse to make minor changes in their lives like wearing make up or losing weight to be their best. When they meet men who do the same thing they are critical of those men yet they seem to have a blind spot when it comes to being objective about themselves. There are no guarantees any of us will find a soul mate or be happy in life, but most of that is due to being inwardly focused in a selfish way rather than having an attitude of serving others and God. Loneliness is a choice to some extent and an attitude. Positive thinking, serving others and focusing on eternal truths can help during the valley and desert experiences we all have at one time or another in our lives. Many blessings to each of you who read this. I pray for you all to have a rich and fulfilling life by serving others and seeking to know your inner soul and most of all by seeking God’s plan for your life.

  3. Ntsiki

    Thanks for the enlightening article, very useful perspective. I am going through a journey of self introspection,reconnecting with myself, and genuinely reviewing what mistakes I made in my past relationships. Being single is giving me an opportunity to reflect on my personal life journey and standing what truly matters for me without being pressurised by a partner’s perspective per se. Not easy, but definitely a worthy and fulfilling process.

  4. Gina Rose ext.9500Gina Rose ext.9500

    LOVED this article !!

    I prefer to be alone, rather than be in a bad relationship OR
    ” settle ” for a mediocre relationship.

    I’m not in any hurry to settle down , but when or if I do, it has to be with the right person.
    I’m a Grandmother and have turned down several marriage proposals over the past few years….getting married JUST to be with somebody and not be alone just doesn’t cut it for me.

    The way I look at it, ( having already died twice & crossed over ), we come into this world alone and go out the same way….life , your life, is what you make it.

    If the right guy comes along, fine…..if not, that’s ok too, because I’ve learned to be happy and content with ME.

    It’s a BIG, HUGE world out there,…. and there is somebody for everybody….it just takes some time,…. some people find love quickly in life, while others find love later in life.

    Nice work, S.K. Smith !!!!!

    Blessed Be )O(
    Gina Rose ext.9500

  5. Marc from the UK

    My greatest fear was loneliness and boy did that weigh me down, FEAR is 90% just that, we choose how we feel, and we chose to allow these things to scare us. Actually we allow fear to hold us back, in reality when we take on fear we realise that it is not real, it can be dealt with in bite size pieces which when we look back are mountains and hills walked and accomplished. You simply cannot be happy by jumping trains, you have to embrace the change, mine was loneliness and I have overcome it. I simply did things, created things, built things, learned things, and got busy !!

    I am a greater man now for living my fears !! Loneliness is a state of mind that can be reprogrammed !

    Oh and when you see other couples or groups of people, maybe they are in the pack as they are not strong enough yet to embrace fear!!

    Chill 🙂

  6. Carmie

    Great article – really spoke to me – the clean slate idea is good – it’s an opportunity to focus on myself & be who I want to be – been alone for over 4 years now & don’t want to be by myself forever – I’m still a work in progress!!

  7. Carmie

    What a great article – this really spoke to me – the clean slate idea is great – it is good to focus on yourself for a while & be yourself again…I’ve been on my own for over 4 years now – don’t want to be alone forever but the happiness has to start within ourselves first before we can share it with others I think…

  8. Rosa

    I like this article because it helps me to understand and appreciate my time more. I have to find happiness within me before meeting the right person.

  9. blackie

    Well there is one thing left out of all this. Being so crowded and verbally abused in one relationship you never have time or the permission for yourself anymore and that will go with me as a friend from now own. I should have learned that the first time and money and jewelery don’t even get you a gratification, you really should ask yourself is it worth all this and the heart break a women can give. I am not even going back to that and should never have allowed myself to, to begin with. Love doesn’t work the way it used to.

  10. Rainelle

    Loneliness, can become a disease if we let it. I turn loneliness unto a blessing. We are not born to be lonely for every man there’s a woman for every woman there’s a man. Until that right man, come my way I keep myself into activities, one of them is reading my bible and going to church. God is my everything in life he will take away that loneliness that try’s to bine our spirit and belief’s we are stronger than the enemy believe that.

  11. Rainelle

    I’ve been in a relationship for 15 years. And in that relationship it always me giving all my love, trust, and honesty. I was mental abused in all the cheating that this person has done to me. I finally, woke up to all his bullshit. I got an order protection against him so I can go on with my life. Instead of wasting it on someone who doesn’t love me at all NO-WAY!

  12. Theresa Hendrickson

    I ‘m not ready to BE SOCIAL with other people Super SHY and Nervous

    My whole tired and Stressed out for LIFE


  13. diane

    Well if there is an upside to loneliness I haven’t seen it. I am often the “third wheel” or simply alone for various activities. At my age (mid 50s) seems all of my friends are paired up. I am not invited to things that are “couple” based. Recently went to an activity where seating was “first come” with 2 other couples (family no less). We were unable to sit together so instead of our group splitting up, I sat alone in the back, sadly they didn’t seem to care. Truly affected the activity of the nite for me. Story of my life. I would love to have a someone in my life, am not content to be “lonely” at all and wish every day it was different. Despite my efforts that isn’t changing either.

  14. Rivers ext. 5273Rivers Ext 5273

    Like other emotions, loneliness is a choice. If you choose to respond instead of react to not being in a relationship, you get to decided how you feel.

  15. Francine

    hi i have been there and loneliness just gets worse have been single for almost 4 years and there is upside well i just do not see it. and the holidays are really a tearjerker, tissues please and i consider myself very together i work everyday as well

  16. Julie

    I just would like to say that the information that you have provided me has really enlightened me in ways that I never thought possible so I wanted to thank you very much for opening my mind to exactly what has been going on in my head for a long time now. Keep the info coming because I will accept it with an open heart as well as an open mind. Thanks a lot, Julie

  17. Alexandra

    Very good article. I have been on that journey for quite some time.
    But it has not improved no matter what I do or have done so far;
    meditation, prayer, travel, social activities, self help books, articles.
    The pain has been too strong this time around and nothing seems
    to help. I consider myself a very strong person and have weathered
    enormous challenges in my life, but this time around, this has knocked
    me for a loop. But I suppose one must continue on though some of
    the daily experiences continue to dig the knife of pain and hurt deeper.

  18. Alexandra

    S.K. Smith…Thanks for this. This has been my case for over 2 years
    since a most fulfilling relationship came to a halt. I have tried to let
    go of all the emotional hurt it has caused to no avail, a very familiar
    situation in these cases. I have tried everything from praying,
    meditating, traveling, socializing, to no avail. Have not yet found
    the route to healing the emotional pain and loneliness.

  19. elizabeth

    Hello this is so true it is what i have been doing for almost 2 yrs. getting to know me and what i truly deserve and not repeating the same old cycle. the prob;em is getting back out there knowing when you are ready to try again.Trusting your judgement or your intuition not so easy.It has been a peaceful time for me do i really want to go thru all that drama again. that is the big question. I have recently met some one but keep him at at a distance, i go much slower now no hurry,i dont need a man now but would like a friend, i think LOL!! any way i love your your letter look forward to reading it everyday keep up the good work.

  20. Ben

    Sorry my few friends say I have myself back and has been over two years no one here to be with on cape cod so I work more to stay sane. also take care of my grandson others always place age as a facter now 64 so to old to find some one younger I find those that are my age are old


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