There are many ways to learn if he is the one and only. Psychic advisers, friends and family can help you figure out if this guy is for you. Below are a few more ways to see if the connection is forever or for now. Use each one as a writing exercise. Getting your thoughts out of your head and on paper can help substantiate the reality. Be honest with yourself. Lying now will only mean that you will be in a relationship that you don’t really want.
1. Say Yes to Right Now
What’s wrong with loving the one you’re with? Yogi’s teach us to be present in the moment. What matters is what’s happening now, not what will happen tomorrow or years from now. So worrying if this guy will be with you forever might be something to take out of the equation. Look at him as the person he is today – not what could happen years from now. Is it okay that this relationship might not last forever? If not, you might want to look at what this means to you. It probably has nothing to do with him, but with you.
2. Values and Beliefs
You don’t have to always agree on everything, as long as you find common ground. These values and beliefs will help provide a foundation for the relationship that other things can rely on. Do you share the same values? What are his values and beliefs?
Watch how he treats other people. Is he looked upon as someone that people enjoy being around? If he treats others with respect, especially family and long-time friends, it’s a good sign he’ll do the same for you. List examples of how does he treat others.
4. Arguments and Issues
It’s okay to get mad, angry or feel slighted. What’s not okay is if you both argue so loud that you wake the neighborhood. If you talk through things and express what you’re feeling, you might have a good match. When you have disagreements, how are they handled?
5. Talk About the Future
He talks about a future with you and you agree with it. You’re not the one making the wedding plans, but he talks about doing things with you in the future. Check to see if you’re setting him up to say these things or if he’s really looking to the future.
6. You’re Friends
You’ve heard it before: it takes a good partnership to get through the ups and downs of life. Can you depend on each other to take out the trash, pick up the dirty clothes and be respectful of each other’s needs? These are some of the basics that can help you see if this man is really your friend or just a friend with benefits. Are you friends?
7. He Listens
I really enjoy the fact that men are natural problem-solvers. At times though, you really need someone to listen and not fix the problem. List examples of how he listens.
8. You’re Happy
It’s impossible for anyone to make you feel happy, sad or any other emotion. You choose to be happy, sad and so on. Look at what makes you happy. Are you happy with him?
9. You Can Trust Him
Trust is another part of the relationship foundation. If you can trust each other, that will help build a stronger relationship. How does he show you that he’s trustworthy?
10. The Bedroom Sizzles
Sex is only one part of a relationship. Successful relationships have a balance of passion and the mundane. Also, look at the quality of the sex. Do you enjoy it?