Change Your Vibrations, Change Your Life
We all have something we need to let go or get over in our lives. To celebrate and honor this, March 9 is Get Over It Day! Check out the fun printable declaration of intent form. You can use it or share with friends and family if you feel they need to “get over it.”
For most of us, it’s difficult to lose people we care about due to fights or fall-outs. Even when people just get weeded out during natural progression, it isn’t easy on us. Thus, a good portion of us actively hold on to people that no longer serve our higher purpose, but who actually hinder our progress. The worst thing for most human beings is rejection and/or loneliness, which translates into some of us jumping through hoops, tip-toeing around certain individuals, or simply denying our very own nature. And when we do these things, sooner or later we start feeling resentful.
Not all relationships and friendships should be salvaged, because not all of them are equally important. But no matter what happened, I would always ask anyone to still accept their part in any type of “bad” parting. If you behaved in ways that were hurtful, mean or out of line, you must own up to it and apologize. Why? Because this is what grown up and healthy people do! We own our part in things and we behave with integrity, honesty and decency! Just be prepared that most people do not like confrontation and therefore prefer the passive aggressive or behind-the-back approach. This is fine, too, as long as you can at least look at yourself in the mirror, knowing that you did the right thing.
I know that it hurts to let go, but know that holding on can sometimes be more detrimental and painful than cutting the cord and walking away. So here are three things to consider when finally saying “good riddance!”
Know what they are and stick to them! If you attempt to foster relationships with people who do not have the same values, things will go sour eventually. The good old saying “opposites attract” does not apply here at all. For example, if you value loyalty and the other one doesn’t/won’t, things will go really sour when they keep letting you down and disrespecting you.
2. Love, Empathy and Kindness
I know it should be a no-brainer, but why hang on to people who are unkind and can’t be loving towards you? We are all imperfect; we have our struggles, ups and downs and our strengths and weaknesses. Who needs people who are too self-absorbed to love anyone else and have no ability to relate to another? In order to be kind, one has to have empathy, and in order to love, one has to have the ability to relate to another and share with them. Insight into others also allows you to see how another wants to be loved! Not all of us recognize love in the same ways. While some require a lot of reassurance, others may need someone who helps them with the daily chores.
Someone who is absolutely clueless regarding who they are and how they come across or affect others will have absolutely no clue how to treat another; or how to be a friend, partner or lover. When someone is stuck deeply in denial about their own life, how “tuned in” do you think they will be with you? If they are not open to any criticism, how do you think they will help you grow? You’ve guessed it, by not saying a thing and looking the other way. Worst case scenario, they will say something, but not to your face. Either way, this is not a growth inspiring situation. To love and care for anther includes the ability to be open and honest with each other!
My advice is not for the faint of heart, nor for those who want to lead a miserable, or mediocre life. My advice is for those who want extraordinary lives; for those who want to be wide awake and live life to the fullest; for those who want to learn to thrive versus merely cope. There is so much to be gained when we live our lives courageously, and when we won’t take “no” for an answer. The shift that spreads across all parts of our existence can only occur when we are the catalyst. All change starts within, not without!
So if you find yourself hurt, angry, disappointed or upset over losing someone who isn’t worth the emotions or tears you invested, just know that there is no empty space in the universe; and generally, when one door closes, another one opens. Life goes on and when we change our own vibrations, we will attract those who are more in-tune with us and probably more worth-while. For those who closed the door on you, just tell yourself “good riddance!” and move on. This is the only life you have, make the best of it!
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Bellisimo Bella! Brava
Hi girls! *waves*
You know, for the longest time I had no idea what “good riddance” meant? I used to think it means “good luck!” Not until I heard my friends say that a lot when I would tell them about hurtful encounters and then asked for the meaning, did I realize what an awesome statement it is.
Letting go does not come easy to me. It is ingrained to me to want to try to fix it and to help. It wasn’t until I realized that these people wanted no help. Just like Miss Krystal said, most of them are not self-aware or open enough to admit to their own part in anything. Our society largely thrives on blaming, pointing fingers and denying their part in anything. This is why it is so important to choose friends and relationships wisely.
I totally agree with you once again, Carmen!! I used to try to be friends with ‘everyone’ and would be hurt when I was rejected or left out. Now I live my life completely different and still have people either turn away from me or I drift away from them. However, I know each instance that it’s ok and actually for the best. It because I now have have self awareness and see myself in the mirror. I am finally loving myself for exactly who I really am and living my life the way I want and need to. With the values I hold dear, and yes it takes ‘courage’ to do so! That is what I needed to gain personally in order to be able to say ‘good riddance’ and not losing people/friends who really weren’t good for me or who I had out grown, though I mean no ill will toward those people. It’s a personal choice to grow and move on; but oh so good when we can and do!!
Another Great post, Carmen! I feel like you are writing directly to me so m any times I read your work!
Blessings & Big Hug,
Coreen @ VOS
Thanks, Carmen. This article will help many people.
I really like the part about “Owning up to their part,” of a bad ending-And yes, I totally agree that maturity is a part of that. However, trying to explain that to the individual who is lack thereof, at the time, is not so easy. I see it as they simply need more time to evolve. Of course, there is not any promise, however, that the person who got hurt, will take them back, with open arms-But at least the person finally owning up to it, can release it and, not be distracted by any further disturbances, due to their old, childish-unfair ways of handling things.
Truth to be told, it’s really not that difficult to do the “Respect test”-I can tell you, if a person doesn’t respect you, it’s really easy for them to fail here and, as a result, BINGO, you got your PROOF to let go. The ego is something else. So are emotions. Sometimes we end up certain relationships where one party feels they are “ABOVE” the other-Unfortunately, when this happens, you can bet that is the beginning of the end. Especially in platonic relatioships.
If there is someone out there who you feel is hindering your spiritual growth, making you feel down every time you connect with them and simply don’t know what to do, this would be an ideal reason to get a reading.
Warning-not with all, but with most, you can bet that eventually, these types of “Friends,” try to come back.
And a psychic can help you figure out, if it is truly because they really regret what they lost with you, or, if it is just for their current needs. Please call one of us here if you are in a situation like this.
And, thanks again, Carmen, for all that you contribute here on the blog. I know that I am one of many, who completely appreciate you….Thanks for the “moral” tune up lol
You are awesome. Miss Krystal
Another great article……
I’m a big believer in empowerment……when you clean out the negative vibes and people in your life, you have then reclaimed your power. Be proud of who you are and what values you believe in and stand for.
As a professional psychic I always look for ways to help my clients empower themselves, or reclaim the power they originally once had, but gave away to others around them.
Personally speaking, I would rather be alone and blaze my own trail, than to be around negative and hurtful people that I do not really resonate with on a spiritual plane…..at least I am true to me and who I am.
Blessed Be )O(
Gina Rose ext.9500