Boomer Blues, the Generation Gap and Aging Gracefully

Exploring the Generation Gap

As I sat in front of the TV, slurping my “Skinny Cow” ice cream, I watched the bevy of male beauties seduce the 20-something glamour girl who giggled her way into their hearts. On occasion, she attempted to say something profound, but who was listening?

“You’re so beautiful” he says. “You are everything I want in a woman.” (Familiar words… and I believed them every time… every single time… back in the day.) Just what she wanted to hear, as she sat there with her bare legs stretched out in front of him, hiding nothing. She tried to act intelligent, but come on… her limited experience was a clear drawback. At least to me it was, and to my 50-something friends. But I suppose not to her suitors. So, there it is… there is the generation gap.

Our physical attractiveness as women is at its peak in our twenties and thirties, but after that, when we finally have something to say, we are overwhelmed with ads telling us how to look younger, defy aging, get rid of the wrinkles. And the change from a “hottie” to “ehhh” seems to happen overnight. One day we were the belles of the ball, with all eyes upon us, and the next we become invisible, a common complaint among mid-aged gals. A beautiful woman walks through life unchallenged. So in our youth, all eyes and ears are on us. After 40, some of us wear the micro-minies to “bare it all,” but soon we learn that we look hideous. It’s really a no-win situation—our age and wrinkles are a huge drawback, but when we try to dress like our 20 or 30-something sisters, we’re told we look ridiculous.

So it’s back to the drawing board… again. I pick up my Crones Don’t Whine book by Jean Shinoda Bolen, who tells me that I have finally found my voice. Ah, so that’s what I’m looking for. My voice! She suggests I find my “outraged self,” the one that says, “Enough is Enough! ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!”

She says I’m like a mother bear who practices tough love when my kids grow up. Yeah, I buy that. The whole “poor baby” culture in which we are immersed is a bummer.  “Touchy-feely” does not reflect the fierce compassion of us momma-bears. “Silence is consent,” says Bolen. I had to learn to be silent over the years, because no one was actually listening, until…

I found my voice; I realized a new appreciation for who I am as a boomer. I have wisdom, creativity, an open heart and lots of experience, experience that I share with the younger generation. I’ve learned to pay it forward rather than competing. As I sat in my write-up group with the 20 and 30-somethings, I suddenly became aware that all eyes were upon me, everyone listening with rapt attention. I went home that night with a sense of peace. I make a difference. I had a breakthrough, not an exhilarating one, but one that flowed through me. I looked in the mirror at the newly empowered person I had become and tears filled my eyes. Thank you for this moment. Stay tuned. There’s more to come.

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5 thoughts on “Boomer Blues, the Generation Gap and Aging Gracefully

  1. Brian from

    Thank you so much for sharing this information with us! It is so irritating that as soon as you get a few wrinkles people want to change everything about you, or think you are hideous. It’s ridiculous! I think that one of the most beautiful things that a woman can possess is her intelligence. That is something to be admired.

    I work with senior citizens every day, helping them cover the out of pocket gaps brought on by government Medicare at I love working with them and hearing about their different experiences and views on life. It is so rewarding! I’ve heard many times from many different clients about all of the different products to make you look younger. To be quite honest, I’ve always thought that the more you try to look younger, the worse you look.

    Those of us who embrace getting older often look much better as they do it! Just a little food for thought. Thanks again for sharing. You have an excellent blog. Feel free to check out our brand new website. We’d appreciate any type of feedback!

  2. Nick Raby

    Was looking for this article which I read with delight last week. I went back to look for it again, but couldn’t initially find it. Glad I finally did. Really liked this. As a writer I really like the freshness, rawness and honesty of it. In writing insight and honesty about that insight is really the most important thing. It’s relevant too, using a pop culture and current framework. Reminds me of the writings of Nora Ephron or Nancy Myers, really raw, candid chick-lit with something to say. Thanks, Marceea!

  3. Jacqueline

    Hi Marceea,
    Love your article, I was taught by the Grandmothers that we need to embrace our years of wisdom and experience earned, we go through life experiencing so much, gaining knowledge along the way, what a wonderful place to be, one thing that I have seen and know is the Grandmothers and the Grandfathers the Elders have so much to share with us, if we will only pause and listen to there lessons gained along there life path, we may just save our-self alot of grief and/or life struggles.

    Blessings and Big Hugs!
    Jacqueline x9472

  4. Quinn ext.5484quinn

    Our bodies
    Our partner’s bodies
    What becomes of those bodies

    (we must keep going to the end – loving ourselves loving our lovers.)
    beautiful blog thank you so much for sharing.
    -quinn ext. 5484


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