We had some excellent reader comments on Psychic Tansy’s article “Women Who Wait,” about women who date married men and are stuck waiting for them to get divorced. Check out what you had to say:
Fifteen years ago I had an affair with a married man. After three months I decided to walk away and never look back. After that, I swore I would never, ever be involved with a married man. Well, fifteen years later, I’ve gone and done it again.
When I first met Victor, it was an instant attraction. His charm and sense of humor really attracted me. The attention he showered me with was unbelievable. Well, after three months of dating, I realized that he was still with his ex-wife. I mentioned it to him, and he was honest enough to tell me that, yes, he was living with his ex-wife again. They are divorced, but they live together.
He swore he loved me, but I know deep down that he’ll never be mine. So I’ve chosen to walk away from the six-month relationship. As heartbreaking as it is and feels, I know that this is the best thing for me to do. Victor will always hold a special place in my heart. In time, I know I’ll be fine, and I look forward to the day I find my true mate in life. – Harley666
But this reader feels differently:
In these modern times, relationships must suit individual personalities and situations. Why does everyone want what they feel that everyone else has? No two people are alike. It’s often worthwhile looking at what makes you happy. If the relationship satisfies you in the present, be happy with it. If it doesn’t, and you have another option, move on.
Remember that if he hasn’t committed to you, you are free, too! I hope this helps everyone experiencing angst. I like the idea that one learns from whatever situation they are in, so long as they like the lessons they are learning and feel richer because of them. The real lesson is to be happy with yourself. Remember that you came into this world alone, and will leave alone. Everything else is bonus! So to everyone, please stop playing the victim! If you can stop letting yourself be defined by your circumstances, that would be a good start! – Startup
What do you think – what do you have to learn from dating unattainable partners?