Should You Return to Lost Loves?
I laugh when clients suggest that they are “too old” for love, as love is a tool for spiritual growth, and we are never too old to learn and grow! My grandmother was single for most of my life; when she was 92 years old, her sweetheart from sixty years before came back into her life. They were married and spent the last eight years of their lives blissfully together! Their union was so deeply connected that when he passed, it was less than three months later that her body released her, and her soul followed him.
Many of my students, clients, friends, and loved ones, have connected with past loves; from high school, college, earlier jobs or projects. Based on what is sometimes as light as flirtations, found each other again. I don’t believe in coincidence, I feel that we have a plan, with some emotional contracts before we ever enter into this lifetime! So we can never really ever say never! Keep your heart and mind open. Live your life in the now. You cannot sit at home waiting for that person to find you again, you must live your life to keep the energy flowing forward.
What you can do in the meantime is get ready! Work on your own independence, on self esteem. Get things in order in your career, so that when you do find a partner, you have the money or vacation benefits to allow special travel and fun together. Stay away from fixating on your appearance or how much “you have aged” as I have not seen that in even ONE of these returning love scenarios. What I do see is someone who will see you as the person they were attracted to years ago!
Where to find old loves? My sister was “found” by a fellow who had a crush on her in high school when she was 48 by an online “high school” site. They married and were happily together until her death fifteen years later. Many people these days have done a search on Facebook and found people from their pasts that were very glad to reconnect. You can also check into class reunions, or call some of their old friends or family to check for an address to “just say hello!” Look online at the phone book for the last area you knew they were. There are also online “people find” services that sometimes help, but be careful in your choice of which one to use, ask for references.
Just keep in mind that love is a spiritual exploration of one’s self through a more dual experience and it is not an award or a judgment of your life. We ALL deserve to be loved, and the best way to pull it in is to shine the light of who you are as bright and strong as you can. Don’t give up five minutes before the miracle!