We received a wonderful comment from a reader looking to set the record straight on how to make relationships work.
Hello, I often read articles on your site and others about how men don’t want women to change them and how if your agenda is about changing your guy, you will fail. I think the majority of women do not go into a relationship wanting to change their guy, but here is what they do expect: that a guy will have the emotional intelligence that for the relationship to work well, he will have to adjust and make compromises so they grow toward each other and get used to each other’s quirks. Also, that some quirks cannot be changed but a considerate person will try to ensure they are not bugging the other person. This applies equally to both sexes, and women know that. It just gets a little old when men think they are being so smart to say, on the first date, that they don’t want to be changed, as if it is something that most people agree with. People do change when influenced by each other…this is a fact, and it can work for both good and bad. Any relationship requires working and growing together well and being considerate of each other.
What do you think?